Hi Rayma;
Oh, very much agreed here:
I made a judgement call to trust my over 18 daughter. Maybe it was misplaced, maybe it was a great idea. Parenting is hard. I do my best and sometimes I err on the side of believing the best about my kids. Sometimes I shouldn't.
We can only do the best we can with what we know at the time. It's difficult second-guessing those decisions, and it sounds like it's no easier when your spouse is not just disagreeing with you, but angrily disagreeing with you.
How long was he yelling for? What was your response at the time?