Premeditation?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Does anyone know if sociopaths premeditate their actions?

The reason I ask is the way my divorce is playing out my wife of only 2.5 years appears to have done things financially that could actually give her a larger stake in my life savings than me or my boys even have.  Also, out of nowhere she is asking the court that during the divorce I leave my home of 14 years as I am making things difficult for her and her children? Really starting to feel that she planned on robbing me and destroying me all along.

Feeling almost at the bottom thinking of being financially drained and kicked out of my own house... .and that she has convinced people to support this... .I feel like I'm in a bad movie or worse yet a nightmare... .

NS

[NewStart]

Does anyone know if sociopaths premeditate their actions?

The reason I ask is the way my divorce is playing out my wife of only 2.5 years appears to have done things financially that could actually give her a larger stake in my life savings than me or my boys even have.  Also, out of nowhere she is asking the court that during the divorce I leave my home of 14 years as I am making things difficult for her and her children? Really starting to feel that she planned on robbing me and destroying me all along.

Feeling almost at the bottom thinking of being financially drained and kicked out of my own house... .and that she has convinced people to support this... .I feel like I'm in a bad movie or worse yet a nightmare... .

NS

[once removed]

some people simply play some ugly hard ball in the court system. my father is a family lawyer, sees it, sadly, all the time.

im sorry youre going through it   you have a lawyer, yes?

[NewStart]

you have a lawyer, yes?

I do and she does too and hers is a total shark who she's used before.  It will all shake out however the legal system deems it to, unfortunately if you're kind (or foolish) and put someones name on things, they can take everything you have whether or not that was your intent or not.  As my attorney said, there is what might be considered "legally" right, but that doesn't make it "morally" right... .

As I go through this process it really has started to test my belief system, whether good really does triumph or is reality that the strong survive no matter what rules or standards they break... .

NS

[infjEpic]

As I go through this process it really has started to test my belief system, whether good really does triumph or is reality that the strong survive no matter what rules or standards they break... .

You feel absolute sh***y, and you're entitled to.
But just remember, while you feel like this now, you will not feel like this forever.
It will pass.

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It will all shake out however the legal system deems it to

its great that you have a lawyer. i encourage you, as you work through what could be an ugly and painful process (and sounds like it already is) to consider posting on the Family Law board. it is here: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=10.0

lots of folks there have walked in your shoes and can help.