Wondering when is a good time to work on getting back together

[chack]

UPDATE:

it's been a week since she ignored me after I sent the letter asking her to decide what she wants basically. I even wished her happy new years via a text, and of course, she didn't reply to me as she was with her gf and this young kid that night. Anyways, as I've said, I'm at the point of letting it go completely as I feel very disrespected and shoved aside as her "fallback" guy and she knows where I stand on that, so I initiated No contact myself. Anyways, I didn't expect her to try to reach out so soon but she tried calling me within a week. On Tues, she called, I ignored. then the following day, she texted me some random questions and I didn't respond. and tonight, she basically blew up my phone several times but didn't leave me any messages as I didn't answer. I really don't want to talk just to talk nor do I want to share with her what's going on in my life. Is she reaching out because she wants to keep me around as the fall back guy cause she knows I do care and love her? Is she reaching out because she's afraid I'm walking away? Is she genuinely trying to reconcile? I know it's hard to gauge, but I don't want to be trapped to having a conversation and fight and talk about the relationship. I'm only interested in a conversation if she's ready to talk about reconciling, otherwise, my life must go on as I don't want to be friends right now with an ex who lived with me for 3 years and is so quick to jump into new rebound relationships. I'm a good genuine person , ambitious, successful and a provider and I feel very confident there are plenty of good women out there as well. What should I do here? Let her keep calling me? Wait for a voicemail or text from her end? Is she playing games still?

thanks in advance

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