Cleansing my life

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hi, i recently had a thread in the decision forum and as you can tell i decided to leave. Here is a link to the thread: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=193786.new#new

My wife has BPD, and i am leaving the toxic relationship. I moved to her country and recently escaped back to my home country pretending i was just going to visit relatives.

My challenge now is how to end the marriage. I had to escape because of the violence and fear for my life.

I am not a confeontational person and necer ended a relationship before, even though i am safe and away from her i am still afraid.

The marriage was islamic and took place in north africa, i moved there from the uk, i could never get a job there therefore was dependant on her, she didnt work so we were dependant on her family, they gave us everything, bought me things which i didnt ask for.

I only returned with my own possessed i had brought there in the first place.

I need advice on how to finish this now because i feel i cant move on and i am stuck, havent spoken to my wife in a few days.

[OmegaCard]

Hi, i recently had a thread in the decision forum and as you can tell i decided to leave. Here is a link to the thread: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=193786.new#new

My wife has BPD, and i am leaving the toxic relationship. I moved to her country and recently escaped back to my home country pretending i was just going to visit relatives.

My challenge now is how to end the marriage. I had to escape because of the violence and fear for my life.

I am not a confeontational person and necer ended a relationship before, even though i am safe and away from her i am still afraid.

The marriage was islamic and took place in north africa, i moved there from the uk, i could never get a job there therefore was dependant on her, she didnt work so we were dependant on her family, they gave us everything, bought me things which i didnt ask for.

I only returned with my own possessed i had brought there in the first place.

I need advice on how to finish this now because i feel i cant move on and i am stuck, havent spoken to my wife in a few days.

[seeking balance]

Hi OmegaCard,

I have no idea on this - but there is a legal board and I think you will get better advice by posting this request over there.

Peace,

SB

[gina louise]

your local masjid or mosque may have some more information on ending an islamic marriage. did you also have a civil ceremony?

I am muslim and have seen marriages done both ways-mosque only (skipping the civil part) and civil process+religious as well. Not saying it's "right" just that people do this.

if not, an attorney versed in family law of your own home country would also be a starting point.

GL