I just wish I could trust my own judgement.
i'm glad i have company! if i'd had trust in my own judgement before the marriage ... .
i'd give a (professional or well-informed lay) diagnosis some importance though. it matters to my understanding and recovery to know whether my stbxw has a clinical disorder that explains lifelong patterns which cannot be reached without intervention, or was just being an obstreperous baby (a word she used of herself, so no brickbats please).