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[DotinOz]

  Hi All



   I have been with my borderline a year and a half, married for 7months. It's a continuous cycle of great times, a wonderful loving relationship and then when ONE THING sets him off (and it could be as trivial and small as running out of DOVE Bars , yeah you read that right )  its yelling and condescending rants, lectures and some sort of punishment for me (like no sex, or no affection or no daytime phone calls). Currently he isn't calling me during the day because like he always does because the other day I was on the phone with him and I asked my son if he wanted macaroni and cheese for dinner (while i WAS ON THE phone with him) Well HOW DARE I speak to anyone else while I am on the phone with HIM!    Now he says he won't call me during the day anymore because I am rude, and I now have to "guess" when he is available Can anyone else relate?    A few months ago this would have sent me into a tailspin of depression and crying in bed, but now I KNOW it is just how he is and his insecurity about HIMSELF.  Its sad, really. However, this group has been awesome and thank you so much for all your posts and support. It really is great to know that I AM NOT CRAZY or DEFECTIVE.

 

Dot

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[Akita]

The sensitivity to rejection is tremendous.  It's like the world is crashing down.  Filled with pain and hurt from head to toe.  Empty and alone and unwanted.  This is how my dBPDw describes how she feels when something has triggered her.  Then no one can respond in an appropriate way to ease her pain.  It's a hell no one knows or believes in... .