Hi changing times,
Are you asking if it is possible that you are seeing BPD in your dd? The impulsivity and black and white thinking... . ?
If that was your question, then you may be right. But there is lots to think of... . for example, you may be witnessing the effect of
, and not BPD per se. You didn't mention your dd's age and I assume she is adolescent. Well you would expect someone who has
to be more difficult in adolescence.
Whether it is BPD or just personality traits and
, the things we work on as parents are the same: values based boundaries and validation. I would like to suggest the Lundbergs book: "I don't have to make everything all better" for you. It gives us a good handle on how to communicate and validate.
If I misread your post, I am sorry... . but the Lundberg book is still an excellent read for a parent
Vivek
ps It sounds like you have a good r/s with the T, that's good to hear.