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Has anyone worked things out? Mistake I made was treated her like she had ptsd and not BPD . Also people got involved who shouldn't have. I can forgive her if and only if she goes to McLean gunderson. I am fighting no contact order,
Am disgusted wrote her family a letter of what is going on and that's what got me my order
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I wouldn't advise fighting the no contact order. You may find it to be a blessing. Use your new free time to take a hard look at what was happening. BTW, YOU are the one who is most likely experiencing PTSD. A BPD will confuse you to the point that you can't remember your shoe size. Think about the pain you've felt, and why. Then think about what boundaries must never be crossed. Finally, if she wants no contact, don't you think you should respect that?
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I am currently experiencing this as well.
There was a post recently in the last week (?) Where the author said his former BPD reached our after a R.O.
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Since my no contact order started I have figured out I have lived my whole life 27 years undiagnosed with adhd. I am finally getting help with my anxiety and can see a psychiatrist to finally pay attention and get my work done and stop being anxious about everything.
It's not about contacting her because I barely did that. It's to get the label off of me. Have I thought about the bouandries she crossed and boundaries she broke yes. I also realized I did that to and we both didn't act like adults to make sure it didn't happen.
I believe everyone deserves a second chance. However you need to earn that second chance. If she goes to McLean gunderson I can give her a second chance.
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