Diagnosis + Treatment
The Big Picture
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? [ Video ]
Five Dimensions of Human Personality
Think It's BPD but How Can I Know?
DSM Criteria for Personality Disorders
Treatment of BPD [ Video ]
Getting a Loved One Into Therapy
Top 50 Questions Members Ask
Home page
Forum
List of discussion groups
Making a first post
Find last post
Discussion group guidelines
Tips
Romantic relationship in or near breakup
Child (adult or adolescent) with BPD
Sibling or Parent with BPD
Boyfriend/Girlfriend with BPD
Partner or Spouse with BPD
Surviving a Failed Romantic Relationship
Tools
Wisemind
Ending conflict (3 minute lesson)
Listen with Empathy
Don't Be Invalidating
Setting boundaries
On-line CBT
Book reviews
Member workshops
About
Mission and Purpose
Website Policies
Membership Eligibility
Please Donate
May 21, 2024, 09:48:46 AM
Welcome,
Guest
. Please
login
or
register
.
1 Hour
5 Hours
1 Day
1 Week
Forever
Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins:
Kells76
,
Once Removed
,
Turkish
Senior Ambassadors:
Cat Familiar
,
EyesUp
,
SinisterComplex
Help!
Boards
Please Donate
Login to Post
New?--Click here to register
Books members most read
105
The High
Conflict Couple
Loving Someone with
Borderline Personality Disorder
Loving the
Self-Absorbed
Borderline Personality
Disorder Demystified
BPDFamily.com
>
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
>
Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship
> Topic:
BPD friends?
Pages: [
1
]
Go Down
« previous
next »
Print
Author
Topic: BPD friends? (Read 378 times)
luckyclover
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 39
BPD friends?
«
on:
June 30, 2016, 05:45:14 AM »
One question people
My ex, we are all talking about our ex. What do friends of them think why do they don't say anything?
For examlpe me and my ex posted alot of photos on facebook kissing and smile got many many like. But now few months later she is doing the same but with new guy and same people put like and write comment how cute thay are and look great togheter. Same comment they said about me few months ago.
I dont know how it was before i meet her but this is maybe guy number 100 so her friend are used to it. I saw one guy comment on her photo "hopefully i will meet you before you get new one" she deleted it. That acctually said alot for me haha.
Logged
seenr
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 229
Re: BPD friends?
«
Reply #1 on:
June 30, 2016, 05:52:36 AM »
I was going to raise this as a new topic yesterday but my friends did talk about her. Here are some of the things that were said to me.
She is not a nice person.
She is a ***t.
I just never know what is ok to say around her.
She hates when the centre of attention is off her.
She is evil.
Not good to hear friends say this about the woman I planned to marry.
This is what her friends/family said to me
You are boyfriend number x and you are a good guy. Everyone else cannot be wrong.
We like you, we don't know you we are relying on what she says.
She has extreme anger issues.
Our family was quite normal - one person made life difficult and you are with her.
Make of it what you will... .
Logged
luckyclover
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 39
Re: BPD friends?
«
Reply #2 on:
June 30, 2016, 06:20:39 AM »
My relationship was only for 6 good months i did never meet her family but she was showing them photos of me and i talked to them on skype. So they were never close to my. But i saw how much they liked me. Somehow i understood that i was the right one for there girl maybe she had find the right one to be with.
Logged
asphyx
Offline
Posts: 56
Re: BPD friends?
«
Reply #3 on:
June 30, 2016, 06:37:12 AM »
I've noticed BPDs tend to be friends with other Cluster B's, it's extremely common for them to hang around each other. So they probably think that this behaviour is normal. Healthy people tend to notice something is weird about them after a while, and stay away.
Logged
luckyclover
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 39
Re: BPD friends?
«
Reply #4 on:
June 30, 2016, 06:46:35 AM »
It is possible ofc. But not all her friends and family. One thing i have notice her sister do not like or comment on her new boy. But did on my photos haha. I know i am thinking to much about this.
Logged
Xstang77
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 115
Re: BPD friends?
«
Reply #5 on:
June 30, 2016, 05:38:02 PM »
I go through the same thing,her friends that told her how good I was for her will like her pictures of her and her rebound.ill tell you this these people don't usually just have issues with romantic relationships it relationships in general,if you look for it I know I have there very stormy with close friends as well,a lot of their friends usually know things aren't quite right however a lot of them keep enabling however.also a lot of Thier friends are somewhat dysfunctional as well I know strong willed healthy people would intimidate my ex.
Logged
Meili
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 2384
Re: BPD friends?
«
Reply #6 on:
June 30, 2016, 06:14:06 PM »
Quote from: asphyx on June 30, 2016, 06:37:12 AM
I've noticed BPDs tend to be friends with other Cluster B's, it's extremely common for them to hang around each other. So they probably think that this behaviour is normal. Healthy people tend to notice something is weird about them after a while, and stay away.
Well, per my T, (and lots of sources online) everyone tends to associate with people on the same emotional maturity level as themselves.
Let that sink in for a moment... .
Logged
Leonis
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Separated
Posts: 421
Re: BPD friends?
«
Reply #7 on:
July 01, 2016, 05:50:49 AM »
Well, chances are, pwBPD tends to not have "friends" or they are some mega best buddy who lives in another state.
Using my ex as an example, I didn't think much of her not having any immediate friends as a red flag at the time because I figured being so close to graduating college and having friends getting married, etc. would mean that anyone's social circle is in for reorganization.
Turns out, she didn't have any close friends. She vowed that she'll change that after our breakup. Well, we shall see.
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?
Pages: [
1
]
Go Up
Print
BPDFamily.com
>
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
>
Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship
> Topic:
BPD friends?
« previous
next »
Jump to:
Please select a destination:
-----------------------------
Help Desk
-----------------------------
===> Open board
-----------------------------
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
-----------------------------
=> Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup
=> Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting
=> Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship
-----------------------------
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
-----------------------------
=> Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
=> Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD
-----------------------------
Community Built Knowledge Base
-----------------------------
=> Library: Psychology questions and answers
=> Library: Tools and skills workshops
=> Library: Book Club, previews and discussions
=> Library: Video, audio, and pdfs
=> Library: Content to critique for possible feature articles
=> Library: BPDFamily research surveys
Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife
Loading...