Separating from my spouse

[Nina123]

I am new to this site. I have been married for 10 years and endure a lot of emotional/verbal abuse. I am just realizing my husband has BPD traits. I am so burned out. Moving out. But was wondering if therapy could help him so our marriage will be saved ? If not I can't go on anymore.

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[an0ught]

Hi  Nina123,

feeling burned out and depressed is common for people who arrive here  . For the situation to improve - whether you separate or not - it is critical that you exercise sufficient self care. Moving out - possibly temporarily - can be a positive step (in the LESSON 6 there is a link to therapeutic separation workshop).

BPD is very complex condition and predictions are impossible. However statistics show that it is a condition where targeted therapy can make a difference and symptoms can often be reduced on a level that they don't fit the original diagnosis anymore. So yes, it is treatable but treatment requires some level of buy-in to learn more constructive coping strategies in DBT by the pwBPD.

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a0