More Manipulation and Self-Harm

[daz_bpd]

I had just sent her money for rent and food, moments later... .she is wanting more money from me



Her: Ok D, since you want to harm me, lets do it your way. I wont eat until this gets settled

Me: I DON'T want to harm you.

Her: You dont care? test me how far ill go i dont care if i die

Me: You not eating, is YOU harming YOURSELF

Her: Naive. You arent acting on things

Her: I will not eat until this is done. And This is all on you.

Her: Call my phone when you have enough money.

Her: NO i wont eat until you send me what i need

Me: What you are doing now is self-harm

Her: Its all on you. I mean it

Her:I didnt have dinner, i havent had lunch. Something bad happends to me, its all on you

Her: You have done NOTHING to make things happen

Her: call my phone when you send me more. until then, watch me starve. but of course, you dont care.

Im so tired of being told I 'don't care' when its her lack of care or empathy that has resulted in her life not meeting her own expectations.

[chill1986]

Cut her off! Don't send anymore.

Did she always lack empathy?

[daz_bpd]

She has acted in a caring manner earlier on in the relationship, while being needy, controlling and lying to me, but now she only thinks about herself with complete disregard of how I feel. She has not considered how her actions are ruining things for both of us and jeopardising everything we worked so hard for.

Even if she tries to show 'care' it becomes about her somehow. I always end up having to make her happy even when I am hurting or feeling unappreciated.

[chill1986]

Sounds familiar. I've gone NC, she makes out like she is the victim. She ruined my life and has no remorse and then makes out it's tough for her.

Leave her be mate.