Hi Venny,
I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I can totally understand your feelings of going crazy with non-stop thoughts about your ex. It's terrible and so hard to endure. Know that you are not alone, so many of us here can relate.
These breakups break up more than a relationship; they can
shatter our "reality" for a while as we adjust to new information that was hidden from us during the relationship. These are patterns and feelings that are not only hidden in our partners—our own coping strategies have likely been hidden from us for a long time as well.
Hang in there, this WILL pass. Do you have a therapist that you are working with, Venny? I highly recommend looking into it. It helped me so much to get an objective view of my (warped) thinking. Or maybe you have a trusted friend who might understand that this is *not* just a "normal" breakup?
I firmly believe that I became depressed after my breakup with pwBPD. Here is some information about how depression often manifests after such a loss:
Depression: Stop Being Tortured by Your Own Thoughts Does any of that resonate with you, Venny? (I'm not trying to diagnose, just offer info. that will help you know that you are not crazy or alone in this)
It's important to reach out for support, Venny, so I'm really glad you did here.
heartandwhole