Both sons out of control because of recreational drugs are they BPD?

[Calm Waters]

I am pleased to say Xmas went really well all things considered. I get the sense the injections and antidepressants are starting to work for my older son; he is still detained in hospital but has been allowed out for day trips returning at night. Tomorrow we all hope to visit my 93 year old father and my brother in the midlands - i.5 hour car journey each way but I am hopeful it will be ok. The younger one is still at home and struggling with his paranoia not seeing friends but had a good time with the cousins at Xmas so I think that has boosted his confidence a bit; he is starting a labouring job on 4th January so I am hoping the structure will help but getting him up in the morning is going to be a struggle! I have to say this is the first Xmas ever where there has been no argument and I am sad to say that that is largely due to the fact they my wife's sister who was a classic high functioning BPD is dead; every Xmas it would all have to be about her and if she didn't like anything then all hell broke loose. I know she was guilty of domestic theft on a grand scale, lying, cheating, abusive, grandiose, mean and cruel, now we can all rest in peace, apart from the fact her new husband now a widower is trying to steal whats left of my nieces inheritance, a cool £0.5 million pounds - turns out he was a gold digger all along who is not prepared to honour my sister in laws will……... will it never end! - Calm

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Calm Waters]

oh oh spoke to soon, he's just had his depo injection and has kicked off again! he can't see that they are helping him, so maybe he won't be coming tomorrow! ah well - calm

[Kwamina]

oh oh spoke to soon, he's just had his depo injection and has kicked off again! he can't see that they are helping him, so maybe he won't be coming tomorrow! ah well - calm

Hopefully this will turn out to be just a minor bump on the road and in time he will see that the medication is helping him.

I am very happy that Christmas went so well for you and your family. A lot has happened these last few weeks/months so it's great that you at least had an 'uneventful' Christmas

I remember that thread in which you talked about your SIL's passing. It's sad indeed how BPD can negatively affect the lives of everyone involved.

One day at a time is my only advice now. We cannot change what happened in the past, cannot control the future so the best thing to do is probably to focus on the present and take things day by day.

[EaglesJuju]

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