Yesterday I had the first telephone conversation with dd since we had had a big argument a week before (I had suggested that maybe she has BPD, this didn't go down well and I later discovered this probably wasn't a wise move... . ) We had had a couple of emails but yesterday was the first time we spoke. Initially she was quite angry with me and telling me that it is me who should have a good look at my behaviours, that I should consider the flaws in my character that she tells me about and how I have upset her and my mother. I used the
validation technique, saying I understand how she feels, how distressing this is for her and I should consider these things. T
he conversation calmed down and we were able to continue chatting about stuff for another 1/2 hour
she also was open to discussing BPD, although not for long. She said she had been online and done a test for BPD and the result said she has it. We discussed positives that could come from being diagnosed and getting help for it.
It felt good
