Stupid Clinician Strikes Back

[crazedncrazymom]

Yes!  He's back again!  Like one of those horror movie characters that just won't die!  Die Dammit Die!  (ok for those of you who would take me seriously ... .  I am not actually wishing death on the poor man.  I just want him to go away... .  far far away).  I'm not even sure what to do anymore.  I told everyone my grievances with him and they told me I still had to work with him since he is the only clinician in the short term program. 

We had our bi-weekly meeting to discuss my dd15 progress or should I say lack of progress.  The insurance company asked to attend since she has been in the "short term" program for 4 months and that is usually when it ends.  They went over our options, home with partial hospitalization,d group home or long term residential.  She said you have 7 days to make a decision.

So the meeting ended and I agreed to try to work with the clinician so everyone left but me, dd  and dumb and dumber (the clinician and case manager) decided to start talking about which family based services we want to use and would i rather have a school based or hospital based partial.  DD is VERy excited that they are planning her exit.  Never mind that the decision hasn't been made yet and it will probably be recommended that she go to long term.  never mind that she is going to feel tricked and really mad and hurt that she isn't going home.  I must work with this piece of crap clinician. 

Oh I forgot to add this in... .  dd was doing great.  Home visits (which we weren't supposed to have since they weren't properly recorded in the paperwork and behavior contracts (yeah right like she's going to do what she's supposed to do just because she signed a paper) weren't signed)  have been wonderful and we were talking about an overnight visit.  Then Jan 1, she started demanding that I sign her out or she will kill herself.  (Yeah sweetie... that's just not how it works.  Keep on talking that way tho and I'll put your behind in a strait jacket.)  I sure do hope you guys don't mind that my sense of humor has become extremely warped.  So anyway the meeting was on Thursday 1/3.  I told the clinician about her threats and he started talking about how maybe we shoudl have an overnight visit sooner than we had planned (saturday instead of tuesday).  Oh no, let's not use some common sense and realize that it's probably best not to get her hopes up about an overnight visit because she is not talking in a safe way.  Let's not realize that when we talk like that that she will fully expect to be going home.  Let's make plans and then rip the carpet out from under her.  That will really help her treatment.

Sorry guys.  I'm just so mad I could scream. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Survive2012]

Good morning Crazedncrazymom,

I am sorry you and your daughter are suffering so much, and that you have this stupid clinician!

We are not living the same experience (as we hope our son 15yo is going to accept therapy) but we are suffering just as you are.

Why can't you go a little further to find a good clinician?

Maybe in the long term residential there would be another clinician... .  

When something doesn't work, it is good to change it, isn't it?

Be strong and brave, and help your daughter in trying to be the same.

I will think of you.

Survive

[crazedncrazymom]

Survive,

In order to get a new clinician I would have to get a new residentail.  It's not the entire center I have a problem witih, just dd's clinician.  The other staff work well with her.  Just 4 more days and they will have to give a decision regarding their recommendations for treatment and then I'm going to push to have the change happen as fast as possible.  If it's long term it will happen pretty fast and if it's group home or home home it will happen slower but I'll push them as hard as I can (without pushing so hard that they ignore me)