Is there any reason to stick with an udBPDgf who refuses therapy?

[waverider]

Now of course she took this as a big attack when it was actually the opposite but my acceptance of the reality of her condition is helping me to keep it together.

Thats the hard thing about acceptance with a pwBPD, it need to be your own thing, no point telling them, in their eyes their is nothing to accept. Otherwise it comes across as you saying you accept they are a failure. Very invalidating.

[nowwhatz]

Now of course she took this as a big attack when it was actually the opposite but my acceptance of the reality of her condition is helping me to keep it together.

Thats the hard thing about acceptance with a pwBPD, it need to be your own thing, no point telling them, in their eyes their is nothing to accept. Otherwise it comes across as you saying you accept they are a failure. Very invalidating.

Hmmmm... .  interesting.   I will keep that in mind