I don't like being an option

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

So, I tried being friends with my exgfuBPD.  Now she's dating someone and I don't like being an option or taking second.  So, I deleted her from FB and finally decided to move on with my life.  There are other relationships out there.  Other relationships can make me feel great.  A past BPD relationship isn't the last relationship I will have.  I have had another gf post BPD.  I'm capable of it. 

[its_tough]

So, I tried being friends with my exgfuBPD.  Now she's dating someone and I don't like being an option or taking second.  So, I deleted her from FB and finally decided to move on with my life.  There are other relationships out there.  Other relationships can make me feel great.  A past BPD relationship isn't the last relationship I will have.  I have had another gf post BPD.  I'm capable of it. 

[HarmKrakow]

So, I tried being friends with my exgfuBPD.  Now she's dating someone and I don't like being an option or taking second.  So, I deleted her from FB and finally decided to move on with my life.  There are other relationships out there.  Other relationships can make me feel great.  A past BPD relationship isn't the last relationship I will have.  I have had another gf post BPD.  I'm capable of it. 

Look at that! Progress!   

Take that for good spirit and motivation!

[tnvol6]

Love it. Keep it up.

[Wooddragon]

im trying to be friends with mine but he is going all out to keep me as an option which makes it difficult - especially since to be truthful, there is probably a part of me that maybe enjoys it  ?

rather than tell him all the things that he did "wrong" last go round, i am trying to explain my boundaries by saying that i wasnt happy when i was in a relationship with him and i dont want to try again because i dont feel that i can trust him. this is the most honest truth for me.  the stuff that "happened" is only relevant to how i feel now. i have forgiven him for it but i cant ever forget.  i realise that he is running around telling everyone that we are back to being friends and hinting that there is more.  its his way of saving face and not having ppl think that he is "not a good person"

[LuckyEscapee]

I realised i was mines "may as well" relationship, as I was at hand whilst he cyber-dated a number of others behind my back.   he returned back to his ex, but I know he is still cyber-dating others. He needs multiple inputs into his bottomless bucket, to make him feel wanted/loved/attractive. He is deceitful and desperate.

He won't 'recruit' me again that's for sure, I won't ever be his long distance emotional supplement, as he would like.

Glad you have joined that club too 

We deserve much much better!