Split Black... Length?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Personal experiences only:  how long have you been split black by your BPDex with strict NC?

If you remain in NC, how can they ever see you as white again, without participation on your part?   

I'm talking BLACK, scorn, denied, discarded, detested.   

[Whitefang]

Personal experiences only:  how long have you been split black by your BPDex with strict NC?

If you remain in NC, how can they ever see you as white again, without participation on your part?   

I'm talking BLACK, scorn, denied, discarded, detested.   

[grad]

it takes the realization on their part.  it's all about them, not you.  seems like you have a lot to understand about the disorder.  everyone is different but it's usually a couple of months, sometimes years, sometimes never.  depends on what else they have going on in their life and how much supply they can obtain elsewhere.  if they can't find it elsewhere, they might resort to recycling