Attacking everything dear to me

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Since filing for divorce my uBPDw has been attacking everything dear to me and what once was dear to her.  She attacks my family who she loved more than her own and how bad we are.  She attacks friends we had - how they are bad people spreading rumors about her (not true). Yesterday she attacked our church which we have went to for the last 19 years saying how there are no Christians there.  Why do they attack everything dear to you and things and people they once felt dear to them?

[cal644]

Since filing for divorce my uBPDw has been attacking everything dear to me and what once was dear to her.  She attacks my family who she loved more than her own and how bad we are.  She attacks friends we had - how they are bad people spreading rumors about her (not true). Yesterday she attacked our church which we have went to for the last 19 years saying how there are no Christians there.  Why do they attack everything dear to you and things and people they once felt dear to them?

[rockman]

yesterday there a thread and i believe its on page two called (insight hears a thread from 2010) might help you... it really explain whats going on... very well written

[RedCandle]

Cal... .  why are you still exposing yourself to this?

You have posted before about going NC, saying it might be best for you... .  but you are still leaving yourself wide open for target practice.

[cal644]

I know I need to do LC with just our daughter/finances - this all started when she had to stop by the house to get something for our daughter I made that meeting quick and painless as possible.  Then she texted that she found a new church home and my reply was that's good.  Then she cut into how awful the church people are and backstabbers that talk behind your back... .  all from my responce of that's good.  I don't know why I even open myself up (probably because I know the person she used to be)- I've never seen so much hatred from my wife as I have these last 6 months.