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lost007
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Been separated from stbexBPDw for almost three months. She has texted me non stop since I left. Often dozens and dozens of times daily. Called non stop. Post poned divorce by firing her attorney and hiring another. Has begged and begged me back. She made sexual overtures about three days ago. I rebuffed them. She was put out. She was also put out because I wanted to come get another car from the house while my truck is repaired. She declined that. Yes. I pay payments for all three cars. She doesn't work. The texts stopped. The calls stopped. It is nice. I like it. I'm nervous though. It's an abrupt change. What's coming?
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Please tell me you saved these texts? They could come in handy during divorce procedings. Odd that someone filing for divorce would beg you back and then text you regarding sex.
Her : "He's such a monster your honor! I fear him!I WANT EVERYTHING!"
Then you pull out a list of texts from her begging for you and sexting.Judge looks at her like she's an alien. :/
Other than that,I'd say she got the message you sent her.She stopped.Or,her new atty told her in no uncertain to stop communicating.
Do you have an attorney yet? Have you checked out the Divorce forum? I'd recommend you read "Splitting".It'll give you an idea of what a high conflict divorce can be like.
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I was assuming her attorney told her to stop. And yes. I kept them all. Ones blasting me as a monster. Then ones extolling my virtues as one of the finest men she has ever met. I've read splitting. Not sure how it will help. My attorney needs to read it! No kids so should be mostly financial. Just so strange.
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The book helps give insight to what may happen when dealing with high conflict divorce.Your atty probably has a good idea already,if he/she's been an atty very long.
Keep saving those texts.ALL of them.And no kids. You're lucky in that aspect.Finances can be replaced if lost.
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