I heard this a lot. "I am so tired of you."
Painful. The first times I heard it were shocking and scared me. As time goes on I realized it is inflicted in order to create distance.
Probably the intensity of the closeness wound her anxiety up and she fired off in a way that pushed you back.
Honestly, it could've been "hate" or "sick" or whoknowswhat "of you... . " I was so completely shocked... . I was just going about business making dinner. She completely unraveled before my eyes and stormed out.
My husband (undiagnosed BPD) recently admitted to me that when he feels really close to me it scares him too much... . and he has to push me away. For me it was a rare look into the mind of a BPD. Don't worry. Just keep loving her. These things always pass eventually (at least for me).
"pass eventually... . "
That's the problem(s). They will come back. "Eventually" means tomorrow or a couple days from now, when she'll come back to normal. Zero conversation or acknowledgement of what happened. Guess I just have to keep sucking it up and take it as it comes.
Tired... .