Honeysuckle you are doing great.
I feel like I am all over the place emotionally. What is the deal with him being jealous of me? And I was wondering if having these kind of interactions is part of the "charge" I worry I will never find in a normal relationships that keeps me letting him contact me.
You realise how impossible it is to navigate the road ahead, so you're hanging up your driving gloves.
My take is that your ex wants you to be available
when he chooses. You doing you own thing is seen as abandonment. We get conditioned to the madness and allow behavior we shouldn't.
I had a similar experience where I heard my ex verbatim repeat to my replacement a whole script. It was bizarre. That is what he is doing with Vegas. He knows how to get a good story started, repeat, repeat, but he keeps expecting a different ending.
You know he is no good for you, all he had to do was treat you in a similar way you treated him, but BPDs are never satisfied. They always need more. Unfortunately 'more' is always shifting.