I echo some of what waverider said above.
It can be frustrating. I use the responses or lack thereof as a gage of where I am at in my healing/improvement. Course I have started some 'flashpoint' threads too. At times certain things invoke more passionate repsonses then at other times.
I find it when there are few response and I reflect and just read (lurk) for a while it helps to not only get in tune with the community but it allows me to grow into what I need to be to be better able to not only absorb what I need at the time but also ask the right questions.
Dont give up... .
. This board and those we deal with that are BPD are in some way what we need (or have chosen indirectly) to move forward with. I dont understand it and dont think any of us do, its a much bigger/universal issue but nonetheless a catalyst of some sort.
-slimmiller