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« on: May 18, 2013, 10:05:13 PM »

shes decided that she no long wants to try and change(therapy). that shes tired of trying to be someone shes not. so shes goin to move locations again... .  

how do i feel, im almost glade. the therapist she got weren’t able to help her, for anyone who doesn’t know shes been through 3 this past year(their own reasons), i cant blame her, i wouldn’t want to try anymore either. She’s spent the whole time being worse off then she was before. i realistically know the move wont help her, it'll be the same no matter where she goes until shes ready again to truly want to look at herself in the mirror, reflex, and seek the right kinda therapist, but this is her life.

Part of me doesn’t think she will go either, part of me hopes she doesn’t, part of me wants her too... .  the hopeful side of me says maybe this is just what she needs, and where she needs to go for her right now... .  maybe just maybe this will help... .  

im just glade shes feeling happy again... .  even with all the unreal expectations in play... .  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: May 19, 2013, 08:12:22 AM »

Bouncing back and forth regarding therapy is normal, especially if she wasn't seeing someone skilled and experienced in BPD.

Validate her beliefs while offering support and encouragement.
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« Reply #2 on: May 20, 2013, 09:54:13 PM »

ya i think she'll go back on her own time, and i just have to step out of the way for a long while, but be there once shes ready Smiling (click to insert in post)
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