Going NC after yet another bombshell

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hello All,

While I was as generally doing better, I still continued to have contact with my exBPDgf for a number of practical and, of course, not so necessary reasons.  INdeed my growing emotional altitude would be arrested by her latest revelation.  the thumbnail if, of course, that she broke up with me on a Sunday/Monday, then flew away to another city on Wednesday to sleep with a guy she met on facebook.  I had not even moved out yet.  When she came home... . in the midst of my moving out... . on the Monday after, she was in a panic because she needed a morning after pill, antibiotics for her sex induced bladder infection and a prescription for birth control pills to please her new lover.  Only a week or two later, she started posting pictures of themselves n facebook.  Then a week or two after the that, she started to make extra money as a stripper and lap dancer.  BTW:  This is a women in a major profession.  It is noteworthy that her new beau approves of the stripping.She also wants to keep me as her best friend.  Now as you can imagine, I felt like I was in one of those world war 2 submarine movies where the depth charges just keep hitting the hull.  So that is the thumbnail.

Now, because she and her new guy live in different cities, they have agreed to allow each other a surrogate lover to get through their "horney times" until they can be together.  Two days ago,  she posted  as her masthead photo on facebook a photo of both of them.  I had not been checking her page and thought I was free of that kind of stuff.  But the image was there when I signed on.  It was the last straw and I was happy to have it.  I blocker her on facebook and told her were were to be strictly NC except for a family emergency.

There is a question in all this:  Why is it that only when I re-write the thumbnail of our relationship issues for context... . and it does not even include the anger, mood swings and suicide threats and abandonment panic... . that I realize how unhealthy her behavior is.  I mean  loved this women like no other,but she is clearly troubled.

The good news is that I am at peace with my decision and doing better still

[Hurtbad]

Hello All,

While I was as generally doing better, I still continued to have contact with my exBPDgf for a number of practical and, of course, not so necessary reasons.  INdeed my growing emotional altitude would be arrested by her latest revelation.  the thumbnail if, of course, that she broke up with me on a Sunday/Monday, then flew away to another city on Wednesday to sleep with a guy she met on facebook.  I had not even moved out yet.  When she came home... . in the midst of my moving out... . on the Monday after, she was in a panic because she needed a morning after pill, antibiotics for her sex induced bladder infection and a prescription for birth control pills to please her new lover.  Only a week or two later, she started posting pictures of themselves n facebook.  Then a week or two after the that, she started to make extra money as a stripper and lap dancer.  BTW:  This is a women in a major profession.  It is noteworthy that her new beau approves of the stripping.She also wants to keep me as her best friend.  Now as you can imagine, I felt like I was in one of those world war 2 submarine movies where the depth charges just keep hitting the hull.  So that is the thumbnail.

Now, because she and her new guy live in different cities, they have agreed to allow each other a surrogate lover to get through their "horney times" until they can be together.  Two days ago,  she posted  as her masthead photo on facebook a photo of both of them.  I had not been checking her page and thought I was free of that kind of stuff.  But the image was there when I signed on.  It was the last straw and I was happy to have it.  I blocker her on facebook and told her were were to be strictly NC except for a family emergency.

There is a question in all this:  Why is it that only when I re-write the thumbnail of our relationship issues for context... . and it does not even include the anger, mood swings and suicide threats and abandonment panic... . that I realize how unhealthy her behavior is.  I mean  loved this women like no other,but she is clearly troubled.

The good news is that I am at peace with my decision and doing better still

[Surnia]

  hurtbad

Good to hear you are doing better.

I would say that you are having a bit more (very healthy) distance to the whole story and from this point of view you can see the whole picture, you can allow yourself to see how troubled she is. When we are in love we are one-eyed or even blind. 

[Hurtbad]

Thank you Surnia.  And thank this site.

[Clearmind]

    good stuff HB ~ sounds like your limit has been reached.