How to handle harassment from ex BPD gf? I'm worried

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So after constant push/pulling behaviors, hot/cold, I love you/I hate you, putting me down etc... .you know the stories me and my ex gf broke up, she ended it with me, she said goodbye and that we shouldn't talk anymore, an I said goodbye and I promise I won't talk to you anymore.  Well... .a week goes by and she texts me twice asking to sell her tickets for a sporting event we were supposed to go to but I sold them and had told her before we broke up that I was going to sell those tickets since we were over and she said ok.   I didn't respond back and remained NC. 

Now here's the big one!  Week 2 of NC and she texts me in the middle of the night asking how a concert was that we had tickets to go to but once again she knew prior that I would be selling the tickets.  She said "I hope you had fun", to which I did not reply back.  Then 15 minutes later here comes the wrath she texts me 11 times in row, telling me that i'm a "piece of hit"  that I'm an ass for not taking her to the show, that she cried all day, that it hurt her not going, that this is how she will remember me, that she met someone new who is amazing, that she hopes I think of her bc she's not thinking of me, and that she only texted me bc she knows I won't text her back, then she says goodbye!  Also, she could have just bought tickets herself and went.

To all of which I said nothing back.   I have blocked her on social media and on my email.  We use to work together and things "use" to be great.  She built me up then tore me down.

What should I do and should I expect more harassment?  I just want her to move on and leave me alone, and I don't want her to do anything crazier than text me.  I don't want to contact her, but feel if it continues that I should talk to her parents whom I was close with and ask them to ask her to please back off or something.  I'm just worried if she'll take this a step farther.

[betterman]

So after constant push/pulling behaviors, hot/cold, I love you/I hate you, putting me down etc... .you know the stories me and my ex gf broke up, she ended it with me, she said goodbye and that we shouldn't talk anymore, an I said goodbye and I promise I won't talk to you anymore.  Well... .a week goes by and she texts me twice asking to sell her tickets for a sporting event we were supposed to go to but I sold them and had told her before we broke up that I was going to sell those tickets since we were over and she said ok.   I didn't respond back and remained NC. 

Now here's the big one!  Week 2 of NC and she texts me in the middle of the night asking how a concert was that we had tickets to go to but once again she knew prior that I would be selling the tickets.  She said "I hope you had fun", to which I did not reply back.  Then 15 minutes later here comes the wrath she texts me 11 times in row, telling me that i'm a "piece of hit"  that I'm an ass for not taking her to the show, that she cried all day, that it hurt her not going, that this is how she will remember me, that she met someone new who is amazing, that she hopes I think of her bc she's not thinking of me, and that she only texted me bc she knows I won't text her back, then she says goodbye!  Also, she could have just bought tickets herself and went.

To all of which I said nothing back.   I have blocked her on social media and on my email.  We use to work together and things "use" to be great.  She built me up then tore me down.

What should I do and should I expect more harassment?  I just want her to move on and leave me alone, and I don't want her to do anything crazier than text me.  I don't want to contact her, but feel if it continues that I should talk to her parents whom I was close with and ask them to ask her to please back off or something.  I'm just worried if she'll take this a step farther.

[HarmKrakow]

So after constant push/pulling behaviors, hot/cold, I love you/I hate you, putting me down etc... .you know the stories me and my ex gf broke up, she ended it with me, she said goodbye and that we shouldn't talk anymore, an I said goodbye and I promise I won't talk to you anymore.  Well... .a week goes by and she texts me twice asking to sell her tickets for a sporting event we were supposed to go to but I sold them and had told her before we broke up that I was going to sell those tickets since we were over and she said ok.   I didn't respond back and remained NC. 

Now here's the big one!  Week 2 of NC and she texts me in the middle of the night asking how a concert was that we had tickets to go to but once again she knew prior that I would be selling the tickets.  She said "I hope you had fun", to which I did not reply back.  Then 15 minutes later here comes the wrath she texts me 11 times in row, telling me that i'm a "piece of "  that I'm an ass for not taking her to the show, that she cried all day, that it hurt her not going, that this is how she will remember me, that she met someone new who is amazing, that she hopes I think of her bc she's not thinking of me, and that she only texted me bc she knows I won't text her back, then she says goodbye!  Also, she could have just bought tickets herself and went.

To all of which I said nothing back.   I have blocked her on social media and on my email.  We use to work together and things "use" to be great.  She built me up then tore me down.

What should I do and should I expect more harassment?  I just want her to move on and leave me alone, and I don't want her to do anything crazier than text me.  I don't want to contact her, but feel if it continues that I should talk to her parents whom I was close with and ask them to ask her to please back off or something.  I'm just worried if she'll take this a step farther.

Why don't you block her on the phone? Why do you let yourself torture this way?

[Take2]

Yes, you can likely expect more harrassment... .  she has a strong need to blame you for all that went wrong with the r/s and she has a need to get her pain out of her head and push it onto you - regardless of whether there is any reality to it or not.  The best thing you can do it what you are doing - just stay no contact.  She will try pushing more buttons until she finds one that works to make you react... .  but if you totally block her out, she can't get to you.  Could she come to your house?  your work?  possibly although she won't want others to see her in a rage.  You said you used to work together - so I'm assuming you work at totally different places now and she can't get to you that way?   I work with my ex and his rages have without a doubt escalated at times to scary places.  Never physical - but I got scared enough to go to a domestic violence counsel two months ago and she felt that without a doubt it will eventually turn physical.  It did calm down and go back to escalation points.  It's very hard to block someone out when they work just 50 feet away.  Finding another job is pretty difficult.  But "they say" that shutting them out completely will make it get worse for a while but eventually get better... .  so stay strong.  I think talking to her parents might aggravate the situation more ?  but then again, if it comes down to it and you need to consider a restraining order, it is a good idea that they know about it and can vouch for you.  Save all of her texts and any prior email communication... .  you might need it... .  good luck to you... .  it's quite a mind blowing experience to feel like the subject of a Lifetime movie isn't it?

[HarmKrakow]

Yes, you can likely expect more harrassment... .  she has a strong need to blame you for all that went wrong with the r/s and she has a need to get her pain out of her head and push it onto you - regardless of whether there is any reality to it or not. 

The thing is, she does all this to make her self believe that the break up is a good thing.

It's like calling someone an ___hole so long, that you finally will believe in it

[betterman]

I'm no longer affected by her actions and I don't feel a need or want to go back to her.  I don't block her on my phone just in case things take a real turn for the worse I have something that shows her pattern of behavior.  Also, as far as I understand it if I block her I will lose all of the texts from her.   I just look at it as childish behavior.

She got hurt at work and is no longer working for my company and she can't drive.  I don't want any harassment, like her calling my work or coworkers, friends, family, showing up at my place somehow, threatening me, etc. i'm worried about those things.  I just want her to go away.

If i contacted her parents i'm sure it would make her mad, but i need to reach out to someone to help me make her back off if it gets worse.  Just want it to go away and we both move on for good.

[Take2]

Yes, you can likely expect more harrassment... .  she has a strong need to blame you for all that went wrong with the r/s and she has a need to get her pain out of her head and push it onto you - regardless of whether there is any reality to it or not. 

The thing is, she does all this to make her self believe that the break up is a good thing.

It's like calling someone an ___hole so long, that you finally will believe in it

You're right. ... it is so she can feel better about the breakup... .100%. 

And totally right too (at least in my case) about being called names and being told how horrible you are so many times that you start to believe it.  Its a tough road back to finding ourselves for many of us (me)... .

Betterman is sounds like your head is in a good strong place... .just stay quiet and out of her way and eventually she will find someone new to react to her... .  might tske a while but if you don't give her what she wants (a reaction) she will need to find someone else... .