Need to talk... I'm officially being stalked... I feel sick.

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

Hey guys

lately I was really turning a corner. my UBPDEXGF and i broke up 10 months ago. I was starting to feel better, move on, do my own thing you know all the right things... .

Just a quick recap about 2 months ago a suspicious facebook profile was sourcing me for information on my ex. I gave nothing away and said I don't want to talk about it. Just that I was hurt and it was a chapter of my life I wanted to close... .

Well

Moving on and today a frantic gentleman contacts me and says how i know this person (from the fake profile) I said I have a feeling its either my ex or a friend of my ex stalking me. Turns out I was correct this fake profile was using the profile picture of this new person who contacted me... .apparently some higher powers are involved and the IP was traced back to my ex's family home. I have nothing away I want to keep my business private and safe but apparently this new person said my ex's family framed him and ruined his relationship with his wife and family... .

Its all just so full on. I really didn't know this girl at all and I feel like a fool for ever getting involved with her and now this whole situation has opened up some fresh wounds... .not to mention im a little worried as i think she may still have a house key... .

[snappafcw]

Hey guys

lately I was really turning a corner. my UBPDEXGF and i broke up 10 months ago. I was starting to feel better, move on, do my own thing you know all the right things... .

Just a quick recap about 2 months ago a suspicious facebook profile was sourcing me for information on my ex. I gave nothing away and said I don't want to talk about it. Just that I was hurt and it was a chapter of my life I wanted to close... .

Well

Moving on and today a frantic gentleman contacts me and says how i know this person (from the fake profile) I said I have a feeling its either my ex or a friend of my ex stalking me. Turns out I was correct this fake profile was using the profile picture of this new person who contacted me... .apparently some higher powers are involved and the IP was traced back to my ex's family home. I have nothing away I want to keep my business private and safe but apparently this new person said my ex's family framed him and ruined his relationship with his wife and family... .

Its all just so full on. I really didn't know this girl at all and I feel like a fool for ever getting involved with her and now this whole situation has opened up some fresh wounds... .not to mention im a little worried as i think she may still have a house key... .

[Ironmanrises]

So your ex is posing as this frantic gentleman? i am a little confused.

[froggy]

Snap

I've been stalked and I know the sick feeling your having now :/

If you think she still may have a key... change your locks... .asap!

Keep safe

Froggy

[Surnia]

Hi snap

Bad news, I am so sorry. Being stalked is really difficult.

I agree with froggy about changing looks.

Than make a diary / notes to be documented with all the strange things and what happened. If you should decide to go to the police you need to be documented.

Is your computer safe or is she able to install a keylogger or something similar?

From now on: Don't contact her. I recently saw a documentation on Stalking and they said NC is very important when being stalked.

[snappafcw]

The last time I said a word to her was in June when she emailed just saying I forgived her and wish her nothing but happiness. She the replied back with I just don't want you to hate me that's all. Last time I ever heard from her... .


She left me for good right after the last time I saw her in January we were planning to move out together. I was devastated! It's not bad enough that she left me I'm trying to heal and I still feel tortured by all this. This guy showed me her address to and said everything was being traced by the police to her house. It's so messed up.

[babyducks]

Snap,

I am going to repeat what others have said.   Change your locks.   Immediately.  Today.   Don't wait.   

Because no matter what she does/does not do you will have the feeling of being just that slightly more secure.  And feeling and being secure is of paramount importance for you right now.

I am being pursued by my EX.   And it is unpleasant.  Derails me from my recovery.   And when I am at weak moments it is just that much harder to keep my mental and emotional boundaries in place.

I would also suggest that until the story becomes clearer about who did what to whom to remain non committal and very reticent.   I would agree with Surnia.   But would go a step farther.  Do not contact anyone involved and if you can't avoid contact volunteer no information and verify any information given to you.

babyducks

[frag1911]

Snap, I would also suggest that you contact the police, and tell them that you've been approached by a person making the claim that the police are tracking this situation, and this person is trying to involve you.  Just relate the story and that you feel uncomfortable and threatened by this.  At this point, the police should tell you what they can or cannot say, and if it is an issue of stalking they should take a report.

Change your locks.

[GlennT]

[Double Post]

quote author=frag1911 link=topic=213715.msg12344846#msg12344846 date=1384715284]Snap, I would also suggest that you contact the police, and tell them that you've been approached by a person making the claim that the police are tracking this situation, and this person is trying to involve you.  Just relate the story and that you feel uncomfortable and threatened by this.  At this point, the police should tell you what they can or cannot say, and if it is an issue of stalking they should take a report.

Change your locks.[/quote]