shes most likely with an old bf... right?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

 

So after 6 years on and off dating my BPD and I married last December. I thought I had seen it all in those 6 years. Manipulations,lies,cheating(several times),all types of abuse and generally her being a REALLY bad person. BUT there were times we were really good together.

Since we married in December she's shown me she's unpredictable and dangerous. After 2 different conflicts where she became extremely abusive I left with NC. That was nearly 5 months ago. She has since changed her number and sent no emails. So I'm left to wonder if she's not seeing her ex. Our history has shown this would be a viable next step. Why would my BPD let marriage get in the way when she's shown she's capable of anything. All that matters to her is getting her "fix".

I just had to vent I guess.

[tnbh]

 

So after 6 years on and off dating my BPD and I married last December. I thought I had seen it all in those 6 years. Manipulations,lies,cheating(several times),all types of abuse and generally her being a REALLY bad person. BUT there were times we were really good together.

Since we married in December she's shown me she's unpredictable and dangerous. After 2 different conflicts where she became extremely abusive I left with NC. That was nearly 5 months ago. She has since changed her number and sent no emails. So I'm left to wonder if she's not seeing her ex. Our history has shown this would be a viable next step. Why would my BPD let marriage get in the way when she's shown she's capable of anything. All that matters to her is getting her "fix".

I just had to vent I guess.

[Somewhere]

Best advice -- dunno and do not care.

Pity the fool.  But if he is an ex, at least he knows what he is for.

As for you -- Go Dream Other Dreams, and Better.

Free, Free, Freedom!

Are you getting all the legal marriage issues cleaned up?

Formal divorce, financial, any property (e.g., cars, real estate) all apart?

How about taxes for this next filing?

[tnbh]

I really lucked out as far as the financial aspect goes. We weren't/wont be married long enough to gain anything of real value. I have personal belongings there and some tools. I kind of expect she'll sell some of my stuff. But if j can get out with no more loss than that I'll consider myself lucky. I'm sure I'm painted the blackest black. What else is new .

I'm in no hurry to meet anyone new. I don't want to drag any of this baggage into the next rs.

[Surnia]

Hi tnbh

In my opinion and what I see here on board being married can be a huge trigger for someone with BPD/NPD. Quite often things are going fast worse when married. Sometimes even planning a marriage arises a lot of tension and black painting... .

Like somewhere I think the best is focus on your own life. Bringing things in a row about law and property. And doing healthy things for you, seeing old friends, perhaps a new hobby - could this be a plan?