A hearty laugh for those in need this morning

[Octoberfest]

So I got bored and did a little snooping on my BPDex this morning; not because I was craving contact, missing her, wanting her back, etc any of the above, more just out of boredom and to see where her crazy narrative has taken her.  Being that I am not facebook friends with her, I did not see much at all, but the little that I did see made me nearly bust with the irony.

It appears she took a new job.  As a "mental health associate".  At an residential treatment program for youth 8-18 struggling with personality disorders, PTSD, chemical dependency, and other struggles.

This, from someone who has an uncompleted psychology degree and who dropped out of college last year because she got such poor grades.  The irony is just too much.  My BPDex IS diagnosed, and she has BEEN, I don't know that she still is, to DBT therapy. 

Also as a side note, she is no longer facebook friends with the greasy fat loser guy she was/is engaged to.  His page just says engaged now.


Is it bad that I still snoop? Sure.  But each instance is getting farther and farther apart.  It must have been 3 weeks since I last did it, which is a lot better than the several times a day it used to be 6 months ago.

Hope some of you saw the humor in this like I did. 

[ShadowDancer]

Oh I do see the humor and the IRONY!

[Skip]

Is it bad that I still snoop? Sure.  But each instance is getting farther and farther apart.  It must have been 3 weeks since I last did it, which is a lot better than the several times a day it used to be 6 months ago.

Bad that I still snoop??  Not so much bad as "connected". It's progress if you are down from 180 times a month to 4 times every three months.

... .more just out of boredom and to see where her crazy narrative has taken her.

It's still probably more than that. 

Keep up the good work!

[Octoberfest]

Is it bad that I still snoop? Sure.  But each instance is getting farther and farther apart.  It must have been 3 weeks since I last did it, which is a lot better than the several times a day it used to be 6 months ago.

Bad that I still snoop??  Not so much bad as "connected". It's progress if you are down from 180 times a month to 4 times every three months.

... .more just out of boredom and to see where her crazy narrative has taken her.

It's still probably more than that. 

Keep up the good work!

I'll bite- yes, I would say there is a small part inside of me that is still connected to her. The same part that makes me say I would be terrified and upset, instead of indifferent, if I ever saw her again. A small part that still craves the love and validation she is incapable of giving to me. But, just like how the frequency of me looking her up has decreased, the size of that part of me has gotten so much smaller than it used to be. I'll admit it though; it is still very concerning and upsetting to me that I am still vulnerable to her.

[zordon11]

  this is just great my ex (i suspect BPD, not officially diagnosed though) is also finishing psychology and she is going to be a psychologist i assume. She is still having problem with finishing the university. What is even more crazy she stated multiple times that: "there is no such thing as 'depression' - depressed people are just weak and they need to put themselves together". It was one of the What the heck moment for me. I can definitely tell she is going to be very successful in this field   I just feel sorry about her patients.

[HarmKrakow]

I thought it was known that most psychologists are people who went through a lot of crap as well?

I remember my therapist saying that his &*^% of an ex wife kept bothering him and that he (as a university doctorate shrink) underwent EMDR therapy and thus also told me I should consider that :P

[Octoberfest]

I thought it was known that most psychologists are people who went through a lot of crap as well?

I remember my therapist saying that his &*^% of an ex wife kept bothering him and that he (as a university doctorate shrink) underwent EMDR therapy and thus also told me I should consider that :P

I don't know that I would go as far as to say "most".  I would agree though that I have heard many a time of pwBPD or other mental disorders becoming therapists or psychologists.

I just laughed because I at first was suspicious that perhaps she TOLD people she had a job at this place to cover up the fact she may be getting treatment there.  After seeing the website and the "patients 8-18" blurb however, I don't think this is the case.  I was just laughing because I ask what qualifications she has to be a "mental health associate" given she dropped out of school

[Phoenix.Rising]

yes, I would say there is a small part inside of me that is still connected to her. The same part that makes me say I would be terrified and upset, instead of indifferent, if I ever saw her again. A small part that still craves the love and validation she is incapable of giving to me.

That's honest, and understandable.  You're doing great, Octoberfest.  Healing is not a linear process.  How can you give that love and validation to yourself?

[Pretty Woman]

I can't even snoop. She blocked me, but I de-friended her the minute she dumped me. I always think blocking is funny. I mean, you can start a new profile if you really want to see something. .

It really is a childish thing.

That's ok. My uBPD ex dated a prison psychiatrist before me. Apparently it was a really tumultuous relationship.

I found whenever my ex was mad at me she called me all these psych terms like passive agressive/that I was "projecting" or push-pulling her.

I assume these were all used on her and she was "projecting" them on to me.