lostmysoul,

I am glad that you found us here at bpdfamily! The good news is that your daughter is still young, and her chances for recovery are higher.
Do you have other children? If so, what is her relationship like with siblings?
What is the treatment plan for your daughter?
We do have a wealth of information here on this site. We can start off with a few links. Here is a good video for adolescents with BPD:
Video--Adolescence and Borderline Personality DisorderValidation really helps with my adult daughter. Here is a link:
Validation--Tips and Traps for Parents
Please let us know how we can best support you. We are here for you!
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