When TV fiction gets mixed with reality.

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Like with most pwBPD my wife accusses me of affairs and cheating and the sort. So last night we were watching our new favorite TV show.

The main charator is busy with her job. She isn't able to commit time to her husband due her job. Her husband has found a female companion that is available and has similar interests. Its completely fiction. It actually made my wife angry that this guy is doing this. Now I do not condone what the guy is doing nor would i do that. But fo rsoem reason my wife thinks that is exactly what I do when ever she is not around me. 

The fact that she took what happend on a TV show and made it far more real than it needs to be is I am guessing another fault of this illness? Then why didn't she get som angry when someone was shot or kidnapped?

[Cipher13]

Like with most pwBPD my wife accusses me of affairs and cheating and the sort. So last night we were watching our new favorite TV show.

The main charator is busy with her job. She isn't able to commit time to her husband due her job. Her husband has found a female companion that is available and has similar interests. Its completely fiction. It actually made my wife angry that this guy is doing this. Now I do not condone what the guy is doing nor would i do that. But fo rsoem reason my wife thinks that is exactly what I do when ever she is not around me. 

The fact that she took what happend on a TV show and made it far more real than it needs to be is I am guessing another fault of this illness? Then why didn't she get som angry when someone was shot or kidnapped?

[PaulaJeanne]

Wow, does this strike a familiar chord. In 2004 my husband with BPD traits & I had a favorite tv show in which the wife (a main character for all six seasons) threw out her fairly new husband (like, one season)when she found out he was schizophrenic.

One of my daughters said "Kudos" to this main character. This led to a meltdown in my family that ended with my ultimate decision to move out & take the kids with me.

[waverider]

My partner can't watch TV for much the same reason. Fantasy and real life is hard to separate. Whether on the TV or the stories she tells. Feelings are feelings regardless of the source.

Likewise she is an excellent sales person, but at the same time she is easily sold. There is no check valve, the delusion flows either way

[Waddams]

I used to get blasted every time a show with a wedding came on.  We never married, and she was constantly pressuring me to marry her.  I had put the brakes on and refused to once the BPD craziness started coming out.  Anything with a bride and she went to pieces and ended up raging at me for days. 

And there were other things.  Depictions of DV, family vacations, etc. and it would start her on a downward spiral.  The DV thing because of an incident that happened where she attacked me and I literally had to defend myself or I'd have been injured.  It would lead to "I can believe you did that to me!"  Never mind that she wasn't hurt during the incident, and she was hurting me.  The family vacation thing because she wanted to go on a trip but she couldn't hold a job to save her life, and I was broke so we couldn't.  "I can't believe you won't take your family on a vacation!"  Nevermind that I was paying out of pocket for her ANTI-PYSCHOTIC  meds and tranquilizers (that she was also abusing and constantly mixing with worsening alcohol abuse) and also the sole provider for basic needs for her and her three boys (one of which was a 19 year old and a complete waste of flesh slacker). 

I showed her I was totally broke and was about to have to start taking on debt to keep up, and begged her to find, and keep a job.  A few weeks later she instigated the final blow up that led to our breakup.  And of course, when it happened, I made no moves at all to stop it.  Even did and said a few things to spur it along! 

It got so I didn't want to even turn on the TV with her around.  BPD's just don't care about reality.  They only care about what they feel, and what they feel is distorted by their own never ending inner pain and fear.  It's actually quite sad.

So glad that's not my life anymore.

[Wrongturn1]

Same here with TV causing problems... . oftentimes when there's any sexuality or cheating happening on TV, that's a trigger that throws uBPDw into dysregulation and bizarre accusations.  Just last night uBPDw had an episode and said she had been mad at me for the past year b/c she thought I was aroused by last year's Super Bowl halftime show?    Then she went on an extended ranting lecture about how I need to be open an honest with her about what's on my mind... . what?  This, coming from the person who's been mad at me for an entire year but didn't tell me until today? 

[Cipher13]

Its to a point where if there is a woman on TV that is even remotley good looking evena commercial I turn the channel or look away and pretend I never noticed just to avoid those comments. I end up over thinking "What would she see that would make her think this or that when that is on TV. Its no way to live that I can tell you for sure.