Today I Got a Raise

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

After a year of hell with my BPD ex I came into work and my boss gave me a raise.

I was not expecting this. In fact, I was just hoping I still had a job after all this crap I experienced. We just aquired a new company and have 8000 new employees. I did not want to be cut over my depression and work performance... . and this added to the stress of my relationship ending as it did in October.

In May, when my ex spit at me and assaulted me I was traumatized. Everytime she left me I fell apart. My life would stop. Nothing felt worth living for.

I write articles, press releases and speeches. I am a really good writer but when she would do this, it would cripple me severely.

I finally spoke to my boss about it. She was glad I did because it was obvious something was wrong with me and the quality of my work. I feel so blessed that I have the support I do. I even got a bonus.

I am just very lucky.

When I think about how I could have lost my job over her it kills me inside. That is not me, I am stronger than that.

I will never let anyone treat me that way or jepordize my career and life. Never (and not a BPD's version of NEVER, either

[Pretty Woman]

After a year of hell with my BPD ex I came into work and my boss gave me a raise.

I was not expecting this. In fact, I was just hoping I still had a job after all this crap I experienced. We just aquired a new company and have 8000 new employees. I did not want to be cut over my depression and work performance... . and this added to the stress of my relationship ending as it did in October.

In May, when my ex spit at me and assaulted me I was traumatized. Everytime she left me I fell apart. My life would stop. Nothing felt worth living for.

I write articles, press releases and speeches. I am a really good writer but when she would do this, it would cripple me severely.

I finally spoke to my boss about it. She was glad I did because it was obvious something was wrong with me and the quality of my work. I feel so blessed that I have the support I do. I even got a bonus.

I am just very lucky.

When I think about how I could have lost my job over her it kills me inside. That is not me, I am stronger than that.

I will never let anyone treat me that way or jepordize my career and life. Never (and not a BPD's version of NEVER, either

[State85]

Pretty Woman,

That's awesome for you! Congratulations.

I know this is some good news after all you have been through!

[GaGrl]

Outstanding!

[heartandwhole]

Congratulations Pretty Woman!     You sound empowered and I'm happy for you.

[Free2Bee]

Nicely done! Congrats. 

[sun seeker]

 Awesome news PW.

  When you let the bad out it allows room for the good... .   For all the hell we endured,  good things are coming our way... .

[coastalfog1]

Congratulations Pretty Woman! !

[Moonie75]

Congratulations that's a nice story, welcome round these boards too.

You should be very proud to have such an empathetic & supportive boss too!

Great news.

[Surnia]

Congrats, Pretty Woman.



Its good to have good news. And even better to have a supportive boss.

[arn131arn]

Congrats, PW.

I don't want to start a new thread; but I got a new job today.  It was my first day.  I am estimating contract jobs for my friend who owns a successful Construction Co.  I did this for a few years before I went back to school.

My classes are all late afternoon classes this semester, so I am busy during the day and can do my school at night.  My boss at the music venue told me since I had the most seniority, do my job great, having some emotional difficulties that I can still bartend Fri and Sat nights!  The two busiest nights of the week!  So, I pretty much gave myself a 33 percent raise.

I am also looking to get back with my son, which will free 5 nights a week up for some Zelda on the Wii or Madden on the Playstation or hitting baseballs in the batting cage... . Boy am I really looking forward to finally being able to father my child.  Alone, without any chaos, drama, and fear.