drunken BS

[PaulaJeanne]

So tonite we had tickets to the finals at the Westminster Dog show. He is the dog lover, not me. We had a nice dinner but unfortunately he decided to have a couple of LI Ice Teas and then some beer. By the time we got to the Dog Show, he wanted to leave... .

I was really enjoying the show, but I agreed to leave. He was drunk & we took the train home and he harrassed anyone who would make eye contact with him.  This is not a BPD issue, its a drunk ___hole issue. But once we got home... .

Now I put on the dog show on tv & he wants to talk about moving across the country and what kind of settlement he can get from me because he knows I don't want to be with him anymore.

He insists I'm interested in someone else (with no more evidence than you have from this post and also I am

m not ). I asked him to please be quiet & leave the room so I can watch the dog show on tv, that he dragged me away from in person.

He insists that we talk about a settlement of our property. He knows i'm not int0 him anymore. I ask him to please leave the room so I can watch the end of the dog show. he leaves & comes back a few minutes later wanting to have sex... . no, actually saying "You really want to have sex now, right?" I say, no, I want to watch the last 15 minutes of the dog show. he starts parading around the room in his skivvies... . oh you really want to have sex.

I ask him to leave because there's now 12 minutes left to the dog show & i really want to watch. He starts with the crap about ME wanting a divorce. JEEZ, all i want is some peace!

BTW as I remind him, I have to get up for work at 5:30am, & he's retired and can sleep all day. So please give me 11, 10, 9 minutes of peace to watch the end of the dog show.

And he gets offended because I'm calling him out for not working.

WOW hes doing the sleep deprivation thing right now. Cant let me sleep cuz his issues aren't resolved. I need to get up at 5;30 amto go to the job that supports this family. ARGGHHH! too bad as far as he's concr=erned. he still has issues we need to discuss. Im so mad. I am not violent and will never hurt anyone but there's a part of me that wants to stab him. Am i alone in this feeling?

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[lemon flower]

no PJ, you are not alone in that feeling, the pressure a BPD can put on you is so dense that it's very normal you feel like you want to attack back, not only it is utterly frustrating , also it's that pressure that has built up in you that needs to come out !

he should know that putting you under pressure to have sex is not ok! ( I know that situation, I was there myself many times, this is your boundary and he cannot cross it without your permission! )

    I hope you can talk about that with him in a sober moment ?

and I hope you finally got some sleep after all... .