How do i convince her she is a hf BPD?

[jflc]

My GF has BPD, is high functioning, but doesnt want to see she has the disorder.

How do i convince her to seek treatment/accept her disorder, and what arguenebts should I use/how should i talk to her so she listens and sees?

Her BPD is ruining our relationship hardcore

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[Tolou]

There is a lot of stigma surrounding people who have BPD.  Especially, when they are diagnosed and labeled with it.  It is coming from a good place that you want to tell her that, which it cound slike you already did?> How did she respond to that?  The last thing your lover or partner wants is for your to be diagnosing them.

Maybe, you can tell her you care a lot about her and you think that seeing a couples therapist maybe beneficial for the realtionship.  Then maybe if she see's it is helpful, she can seek individual therapy to work on herself, and you as well, to learn how to be in that type of realtionship?

[Learning_curve74]

Hey jflc, it sounds like you want to help your gf by letting her know you think she has BPD. Normally it would seem helpful and caring for somebody to tell their loved one they have an illness. However conventional wisdom says it may not necessarily be helpful to tell somebody they have BPD. You may want to read this: Perspectives: Telling someone that you think they have BPD.