What she said to me?

[Paul M]

It's been nearly a month since my sudden split with the ex.

She has moved so easy not she if she's with anybody yet but who cares it's only a matter if time! When she dumped me I got angry and told her to never talk to me again!  And she has not.and I have not contacted her!  Is this normal for a BPD?

These things she said to me are playing on my mind.  She told me some deep secrets ( overdose and anti depressants couple year ago when with the ex)on the sat by the weds I'm dumped. Could telling me these secrets be the reason she left so soon after?

She says I can't make you happy.  There to much pressure now.  I don't want to be your everything.  And lastly the killer blow.  I feel like your be heartbroken I won't.  Couple day b4 I'm a the family home playing happy family big meal the lot.  Does this sound like somebody with BPD traits?

[HealingForMe]

Hey Paul,

Detaching from a pwBPD is so difficult & painful, let alone confusing!

It may be that she got scared getting so close to you so decided (in her mind) to reject you before you reject her. The fear of rejection & abandonment is so strong in pwBPD that they will do this. They will push you away just because they fear you will abandon them.

Have you decided what you will do if she does contact you?

Good luck & stay strong

[Paul M]

Thanks for your reply

I think that must if been what happened I can't think of any other reason ?

If she contacts me ( which I don't think she will ) I will never forget how she made me feel so low and tell myself I will tell her she's blown it

I just hope if that happens il be able to be strong

I still love her tho things where so good and we could if had it all but once iv been thru it why set myself up for more heartache. I couldn't trust her ever again. It's no way to live