do BPD get better

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I have read a lot of articles on BPD. Some suggest that they get better by the time they reach the age of 50... others disagree. Most suggest that without therapy, the BPD sufferer usually gets worse. Does anyone have a light they can shed on this?... please,... .

[cron65]

I have read a lot of articles on BPD. Some suggest that they get better by the time they reach the age of 50... others disagree. Most suggest that without therapy, the BPD sufferer usually gets worse. Does anyone have a light they can shed on this?... please,... .

[Take2]

While I truly have no concrete data, I will say that my friend's BF who has BPD is 50... . he's been in therapy for years... .   he's a DISASTER right now.  He seemed to be making good progress for a while but has slid very far backwards... .  

[corraline]

I can only speak from my personal experience and that may not be helpful but... . my ex is 61.  Seems to have been in constant therapy for years.  Is a counselor himself altho retired. He has all of the books and materials we speak of on here in regards to healing yet he continued to behave as a BPD does with me and others close to him.  He claimed he was getting well and that i was the one holding him back in the past . I don't really think that I had that much power over him to tell you the truth. I think this was an excuse to put the blame onto me. Besides his behavior was outrageously cruel in the end.

so... . that said, im sure there are that find some recovery and there seems to be certain ones that are more effective than others for them .

I also noticed that when he talked about his process in therapy, he sometimes liked to relate to the therapists as his equal or even sometimes talked about how he knew more than they did (ie in his alcohol recovery program that he started ), or that they used to discuss things as colleagues do in his sessions. He also did alot of flipping around with different therapists.

I don't think mine did improve with all of the tools that he seems to have to do so.