Wife dysregulated took entire family to different church this morning

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

So... . yesterday was a good day until at bedtime the accusations came out again.  I went to bed... . it ended fairly quickly.

She woke up worse rounded up the family and took them to another church.  So she wouldn't have to deal with me not kissing her in church (check other posts for rest of that story).  I walked out of church after a threat... . do this or else.

Details I would like comments on... . I don't think I did it as good as I could.  She spent the morning stomping around the house muttering to herself and at times talking to no one in particular in a conversational or argumentative tone.  Announcing she was doing this and there was nothing "anyone" could do about it.

As wife and kids were heading out the door I started to try to talk to the children.  I was cut off.  I asked to be able to talk to them without being interrupted... . she said too bad it wouldn't happen.  I asked when it could happen and she said when we divorce.  I asked if she was threatening divorce and she started disavowing her statements... . that she hadn't threatened divorce.  I then asked her to explain her divorce statement... . she waved her hand in a dismissive way and talked about something else.  I asked her several times to explain her statement about divorce... each time I spoke I concentrated on my voice being calmer and more matter of fact.

So... . tactics:  I think I messed up by repeating my request for her to explain herself.  I would guess she sees that as victory and me getting in the argument.  Thoughts?  Probably should have asked once and walked away. 

How do I do this when my wife is taking a bunch of kids out the door, telling me there is nothing I can do and I have no input in it.  What do I say to my kids?  Note:  luckily there is nothing harmful... . that I know of... being taught at this other church.

She claims that I will be able to take the kids back next weekend... without her... . to my church and that will be fair.

None of this discussed... . ever... first I heard was this morning when she started ranting and stomping around about it.

Our next marriage counseling appointment is this Tuesday.  I could take most of the appointment to describe what has happened since last appointment 2 weeks ago.

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So... . yesterday was a good day until at bedtime the accusations came out again.  I went to bed... . it ended fairly quickly.

She woke up worse rounded up the family and took them to another church.  So she wouldn't have to deal with me not kissing her in church (check other posts for rest of that story).  I walked out of church after a threat... . do this or else.

Details I would like comments on... . I don't think I did it as good as I could.  She spent the morning stomping around the house muttering to herself and at times talking to no one in particular in a conversational or argumentative tone.  Announcing she was doing this and there was nothing "anyone" could do about it.

As wife and kids were heading out the door I started to try to talk to the children.  I was cut off.  I asked to be able to talk to them without being interrupted... . she said too bad it wouldn't happen.  I asked when it could happen and she said when we divorce.  I asked if she was threatening divorce and she started disavowing her statements... . that she hadn't threatened divorce.  I then asked her to explain her divorce statement... . she waved her hand in a dismissive way and talked about something else.  I asked her several times to explain her statement about divorce... each time I spoke I concentrated on my voice being calmer and more matter of fact.

So... . tactics:  I think I messed up by repeating my request for her to explain herself.  I would guess she sees that as victory and me getting in the argument.  Thoughts?  Probably should have asked once and walked away. 

How do I do this when my wife is taking a bunch of kids out the door, telling me there is nothing I can do and I have no input in it.  What do I say to my kids?  Note:  luckily there is nothing harmful... . that I know of... being taught at this other church.

She claims that I will be able to take the kids back next weekend... without her... . to my church and that will be fair.

None of this discussed... . ever... first I heard was this morning when she started ranting and stomping around about it.

Our next marriage counseling appointment is this Tuesday.  I could take most of the appointment to describe what has happened since last appointment 2 weeks ago.