Like clock work - very predictable - 6 days of NC

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I am in my 6th day of very determined NC. It's been agonizing to, say the least, but I've remained resolute. The night times are especially tough. It's heartbreaking, but I know it is the absolute right thing to do for myself and to end her cycle of rage, abuse, manipulation and lies. When I say manipulation... . I mean she is the Master Manipulator!

I've haven't recieved a call or text message from her for four days. Then this afternoon, about two hours ago, I recieved a text from her pleading for "help"... . as in the financial kind. She even had her sister call me within a few minutes of her texting me. I didn't answer the phone call and just left it go to voicemail. In typical fashion, her sister was mean and beligerent. I subsequently blocked her sisters phone number.

My xBPDso sent three text total, all asking for money. Not one word of love, respect, compassion, or apology. Instead, it was a straight up ask for money. As if, she just expects me to cave in like I did, unselfishly, for ten months. Those days are over. I have not and will not respond. It is so hard, but I find strength trough many on this board.

[mjdg8r]

I am in my 6th day of very determined NC. It's been agonizing to, say the least, but I've remained resolute. The night times are especially tough. It's heartbreaking, but I know it is the absolute right thing to do for myself and to end her cycle of rage, abuse, manipulation and lies. When I say manipulation... . I mean she is the Master Manipulator!

I've haven't recieved a call or text message from her for four days. Then this afternoon, about two hours ago, I recieved a text from her pleading for "help"... . as in the financial kind. She even had her sister call me within a few minutes of her texting me. I didn't answer the phone call and just left it go to voicemail. In typical fashion, her sister was mean and beligerent. I subsequently blocked her sisters phone number.

My xBPDso sent three text total, all asking for money. Not one word of love, respect, compassion, or apology. Instead, it was a straight up ask for money. As if, she just expects me to cave in like I did, unselfishly, for ten months. Those days are over. I have not and will not respond. It is so hard, but I find strength trough many on this board.

[Emelie Emelie]

Good for you.  You're being very strong! 

[Pseudoubermench]

You are doing great, mjdg8r. The first few weeks of NC can be so hard, but it gets better.

Seeing clearly just how blatantly we've been used for emotional and financial reasons can be very upsetting, to say the least. It can be a big blow to our self worth, and I know for me, caused me to doubt my own ability to ever see anything clearly again.

Might be a good idea to erase those texts before you even read them. It is confoundingly tempting to do so... . but it might help you continue to walk the path you've chosen. Away from her. You sound like your mind is really set, and that sounds wonderful and healthy for you. Choose to love you first.

Keep at it!

[Narellan]

Great job on not replying. You have fantastic self control. NC really is the only way to go, which means all social media too. I expect you'll now get a deluge of communications from her and be painted black for abandoning her in her time of need. Stand firm. Good job blocking the sister too. Keep posting. A problem shared is a problem halved. I find it inspiring to read other people's posts. It gives me comfort to know I'm not alone, and this is a great community of people who are all sharing their pain/ problems. Take care x

[AwakenedOne]

mjdg8r,

Good job maintaining NC. I know its hard. You might want to save texts or voice messages if you get threatened at any point for your record in case you need it later. You have said she's been violent and hurt you in the past. Are you doing anything to relax and de-stress during this rough time? Maybe some music or something fun to take you mind off of things a bit. Hang in there bro.  

Peace,

AO