NC Starting

[Junknown]

I already told my story around here. Me and a replacement got in touch and exchanged experiences. We saw who she was when she started, recently, a relationship with a new guy and started acting differently to us.

Apart from all the stories we exchanged since both relationships started (she maintained us both at same time in a relationship with her) the replacement that i got in touch now managed to tape on the phone a call to her where she talked about all the thruth, about the relationship she maintained with this new guy, all mixed with a lot of lies and black painting of us both, especially me, talking badly about me (she even admitted she tried to shape us as she wanted O_o)... .

She even said she had unprotected sex with this new guy and was worried as she and an ex of him both had infections right after. She already left him after 1 week because she discovered he was homossexual and his neighbour paid him for sex. And his neighbour is infected with HIV.

Man, this really made me decide to start strict NC, delete her everywhere and block and get rid of her on my life... .

I hope she didnt get us both an health problem as she managed to convince us to have unprotected sex. She said she didnt like condoms but was clean, that she only had sex with 2 guys since she was a mother and both were clean. I guess this might be true, but if she was clean, she might have catched something from this relationship she was in now.

Im damn scared and i cant believe she is so broken. She really isnt the woman i met. And she says on the tape that she told me all the thruth about everything. She didnt, she told me lies and still keeps posting things public for me on her facebook and blog even tough she hasnt been stalking me... .Trying to keep me at a distance but available... .

Now the time has come for strict NC. I really dont feel anything for someone like this... .I never imagined, really, that she would be like this... .Im in shock, even tough i suspected for quite a while she had this problem.

Now she admits she has a problem with men and is going to a psychologist. Nah, i truly believe she is beyond repair, from what ive been seeing in this 1 year and 7 months... .

So, now the silence treatment is on my part. And starting today. I feel so damn relieved to know all the thruth and not being in doubt anymore... .

[LettingGo14]

So, now the silence treatment is on my part. And starting today. I feel so damn relieved to know all the thruth and not being in doubt anymore... .

I am sorry you are going through this.  I just wanted to note that No Contact ("NC" is a good tool for your healing.   Sometimes we need space to clear our heads and heal.    It's not really "silent treatment" and I encourage you to view it as a way for you to detach, and be kind to yourself.

Keep posting.

[Junknown]

Yeah, it will help me heal. But knowing the thruth has made a lot of difference. I no longer ruminate. I accepted she is beyond repair, totally damaged. And saw all the lies and the way she can lie so simply and confabulate her alternative reality... .

Its shocking but revealing.

Thanks for the support .

[Infared]

It's a war dawg. Your are fighting for your survival, in a way that you never wanted to... .

Total, absolute, no contact is your onLy weapon of choice... .you use it to shelter you from harm. Take one survivor, and let that be you. Regroup, grasp reality as much as it sucks, and just do not interact with her for any reason.   My heart goes out to you.

[Junknown]

Thanks.

Yeah, we will not interact with her. She has proved too much of a pathologic liar and horrible person. The way i heard she talk on this taped call. It shocked me, it wasnt the same woman i met, fragile and harmed by everyone... .This was so much of a shock, but also a really nice eye opener... .I will never be able to repay this replacement i met for opening my eyes and giving me the chance to get over this.

With so many questions and so little answers i would forever feel lost and vulnerable to her attempts. But when you hear her in her most horrible way admiting she was with this other guy, had betrayed me with this replacement and lieing about telling me the thruth, there is no turning back... .

I hope im able to heal and get stronger... .

[Infared]

Junk... .I found that my pwBPD is an expert at playing victim. EXPERT. I is one of their main tools of manipulation.  They intuitively seduce rescuers like you and me. Honest guys thinking we a helping someone nice, but struggling at the moment... .but they are just playing a selfish game of control. They do not respect us... .they just think "oh boy, he is so easily manipulated".

We do not know that the person is not who they are presenting to us, but someone much more sinister. After all,"we" are attempting to be in a loving relationship, so we are honest, open and sincere. This is honorable behavior to a mentally healthy and secure woman. PwBPD

See this as an opportunity to control.Not love.

Sounds like you got an earful of the person underneath.

I guess it is important to remember that the person is ill... .but we still need to protect ourselves from the violation, regardless.  They are vipers, in the end.