STD

[Junknown]

Im afraid she might have passed me something as i trusted her blindly and she proved to be the most unfaithful, pathological liar on the face of the earth.

Now im going to do some tests to see if everything is ok.

Did any of you get any major or minor STD from trusting you partners. How did you feel and what did you do?

Im damn scared right now, as i heard the truth of what she really his on a tape of a phone call one of the replacements that got in contact with me gave me.

She had unprotected sex with the new replacement (a third one apart from us) right in the first week, didnt use anything and got some kind of infection. And she discovered he had paid sex with a homossexual neighbour and lived with him O_o. And from what she managed to know, this neighbour has HIV. From that we are safe as we didnt have sex anymore with her. But in the past she might have catched something. And now, she might have catched it as well.

Damn, i never wanted her to get something like that even tough she did so much damage and hurt me so much .

Crap, i was so stupid... .

[LettingGo14]

Now im going to do some tests to see if everything is ok.

This is the course of action.   You can only take one step at a time.   Wishing you much goodness.   We are here for you.

[antjs]

I relate to what you are saying. She was so promiscous to the extent that she told me that she has done it in a side street in san fransisco with a stranger ! But it was laread late. We had protected sex once on the first date.

The course of action : 1- std tests immediately (except for HIV)

                                2- hiv and hepatits B and C tests after six months of the last intercourse

                                3- dna test for kids if there are shared kids

[Alex86]

Hey... .I know how you feel man! This caused a lot of fight.

I thought she would support me in this... .I also had some anxiety after this. I still have.

I wasn't the one who caused this!

Her words:

-You don't make me happy

-You can't handle difficult situations.

-This STD is a sign we can't be together.  

I'm still thinking how to tell future partners. And after that thought comes the expected... what if I don't find anyone.

So much pain for just a r/s.

[Junknown]

Yeah, we can only fully see what we got ourselves into when we get off their spell.

If i hadnt heard this taped call where she said such things i would still be ruminating and wondering if she could get better and if i wasnt being stupid of thinking such things of her. Since i heard her say so many horrible things, and telling so many lies i had no doubts.

Now i just want to be clean :/. Im afraid the tests might reveal something (the other guy who was my replacement also is afraid and is going to do tests too). I really hope we dont have anything... .

Thanks for your support. Now i see the worst things that could have happened were getting a serious STD (which i have still to exclude), getting her pregnant (which i didnt, thank god), or having her move in (it would get me stuck with her on my home, brrrr, i get chills just thinking of that :S).

[peiper]

I can relate. I found out mine was cheating at least as early as a month after we were married . It broke my heart.

[Pingo]

Yep, just came to realisation today that I need to go get tested for all those fun things that I haven't had to think about in like 15 years!  Found out he had been unfaithful this last spring.  Sucks.

[Junknown]

Wish you luck as well. I hope we all turn up to be clean.

Its incredible the way they cheat and lie so well about it. They are master liers. The way mine looked me in the eyes and said something in such a way i couldnt see it was a lie is incredible. And she made her lies in seconds. And they were so plausible... .She even got her husband, that she lived with but said that she didnt have anything with and it appeared that way to cover one of her lies... .On this taped call i discovered she lied and he covered her up. Really creepy the degree of manipulation she has on him even tough he admitted to me on text msgs that he knows she has a problem. I wonder if she threatned him using his son as a leverage to make him do it :/.

[MommaBear]

Mine had an affair with some young bimbo who later told me she had an STI. Yay. He knew, and he cheated anyway.

Been tested, planning to go back and get checked again, even though nothing ever came up in the past.

Reckless sexual behavior is typical with BPD. Sometimes I think it's just another way from them to spread hurt to anyone who shares intimacy (or tries to) with them.