My ex has been harassing me, for about 2 weeks consistently now, to forgive his infidelity (at least twice that I know of) and take him back. I've maintained that this is NOT going to happen. I knew that if I did that for long enough he'd paint me black and look for a replacement. Two nights ago I got raging texts from him telling me how evil I was and that he was so stupid to ever think of "taking me back"
. I knew I had succeeded in being painted black.
Our son's birthday was yesterday and he wanted to spend "man time" with his dad. Cool, no problem with that at all as I had all his friends over on Sunday for a pool party at our house. Only fair his dad get to have fun with him too.
Picked up son, no drama at all. Ex looked pissed at me but hid it well. On the way home, son (11) mentions that dad's new girlfriend ate supper with them. He said she seemed nice and liked video games (
, if one loves video games they will have a friend on my boy).
I had to hide the joy from my face when he told me this. I'm pissed that ex couldn't even spend ONE day alone with his kid (daughter went to a friends' house so the boys could have boy time) but I'm happy because I hope this FINALLY means I'll be free of him (for now wanyway, I'm not naive but at least this will provide a buffer for me).
My son asked me if I was ever going to date again. I let him know that mommy has some work to do on herself and that if that time arrives I will let him know. He seemed content with that answer. For me, however, I don't plan on introducing any man to my kids for any reason for a long, long time. If I date, it's not to find love again it's to have some fun and meet some new people outside of my role as mom. They don't need to be extra confused, their father does a good job doing that to them already.
Ex texted me this morning, making me aware of her and letting me know that she's good with kids. His last girlfriend (that he cheated on me with) was 28 (he's 40) so I can only imagine what this one is like.
So tonight I will enjoy the feeling of peace knowing that ex is being given attention by another woman. I feel like I should be hurt and angry, but it's the opposite right now. It's a strange place to be.
