I am strong in my resolve but...

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

... .when I see her, there is a part of me that still melts.

I thought she was 'the one'.  After I became a widower, dating her felt like I hit the lottery.  She was beautiful (extremely), funny, smart and caring.  I felt my connection with her was even stronger than my late wife.

We work for the same company so periodically I see her in the halls.

I saw her today and she took my breath away.  Periodically, she has reached out to me in various ways but I refuse to take the bait.  I discuss only work related items.  I won't subject myself or my daughter to that roller coaster ride ever again.

It won't be long and it'll be two years since the 'relationship' ended.  There is still a big part of me that wishes it could work.  I know better though.  I just needed to vent a little bit.

Thanks for reading.

[recoil]

... .when I see her, there is a part of me that still melts.

I thought she was 'the one'.  After I became a widower, dating her felt like I hit the lottery.  She was beautiful (extremely), funny, smart and caring.  I felt my connection with her was even stronger than my late wife.

We work for the same company so periodically I see her in the halls.

I saw her today and she took my breath away.  Periodically, she has reached out to me in various ways but I refuse to take the bait.  I discuss only work related items.  I won't subject myself or my daughter to that roller coaster ride ever again.

It won't be long and it'll be two years since the 'relationship' ended.  There is still a big part of me that wishes it could work.  I know better though.  I just needed to vent a little bit.

Thanks for reading.

[elessar]

Yup, for some of us... .our pwBPD make our hearts beat in a way no one and nothing else has. They make us feel more important than anyone ever did. But they are our exes because they also make us feel worse than anyone ever did. When we remember the good part, our heart melts. when we remember the bad part, the resentment and bitterness kicks in. there is no moderation in our feelings towards them. just like they ranged from extreme to extreme in their behavior, that's how we see them too.