What do you do to take care of YOURSELF as an Emotional Caretaker? When the storm has passed and your BPD had come back down to earth, how do you handle it until the next eruption? Could use all the advice I can get.
I live
my life by
my values, not waiting for the shoe to drop; it will at some point.
A big reason why I found it extremely difficult to take care of myself, was because I was so keyed into his moods. His moods effected my entire existence! I wanted him to not have extreme mood shifts anymore. I was attaching my entire being to what he might do next... . While trying to bypass them or JADE him out of them---> directed at him. "You doing this makes me... ! You're doing this, don't you see?" Even if gone unspoken, my actions would scream loud and clear. It was about him, not about me or 'us'. Yet there I was, doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Waiting around for the next big thing to occur... .
Hello, story of my life... .
Now I appreciate work more, my dog, my interests, a beautiful sunset, the birds that come to the feeders... .Life.
His extreme shifts in mood have lessened, too
So, we're enjoying these things together as well
