Another time way back in the beginning of our relationship I was depressed and crying at my Dads sudden passing. I was lying in bed crying and she stood beside me and said "You're no fun anymore" ... .
Oh my gosh! This is soo psychopathic, I feel your pain because my ex was the same!
I know... .I just can't wrap my head around that! What it must be like to not have any feelings for anyone but yourself. It TRUELY is sad. It must be a living Hell for them. I can honestly say that She never, ever consoled ME once in our 20 years together. Her tears and affection were always for and about her.
I feel for you Vivienne. It must have been even harder for you because you expect your man to be strong, comforting and lending a shoulder to cry on.
MWC
Mine was the same way... .she left a note on my car after NC for one year the night before me mother's funeral. I was sitting in the yard and she did a drive by first... .I had my shades on and gave up NOTHING... .(wondered what was up... but did nothing)... then later that night she left a note under my windshield which I found in the morning on the way to my Mom's funeral. I tore it up. Never read it. Was just her lame way out of showing up. I can't tell you how hard it was dealing with my Mom's slow deterioration over time, by myself, no family ... .no one other than friends for support. (well... actually I DID have some really good friends... and they showed up for me a LOT!
)... .but you know ... you are in relationship and you count on that. She runs off with new supply at Christmas right before my Mom falls ill. Never a word. I did not contact her and heard nothing from her. I DID get a REALLY nice note from her Mom, though. Always liked her.
A year later crazy pants does a 4x drive-by and and I foolishly called her after I told her to get lost before she even got out of her car. I should have NOT called her... .thinking "oh... I was mean". Duh. No I wasn't ... .I was loving me. Anyway, I do not bring up the topic when I talk to her, she asks me if I got her note (a year ago?)... .I said "Yes, I did... .I tore it up, threw it in the trash and then I went to my Mom's funeral." She says ... ."Well... it;s not exactly like your Mom and "I" were that close." Not a word about my feelings... .nothing... .it really is ALWAYS all about them! Once they ditch you and have new supply you are like dog $hit in the gutter to them.
Sickening. NC is easy for me ... .even if she is full-on charging in a parking lot somewhere. I mean... .what could I possibly have to say to this creature? I am so there... for the rest of my life!
