death thoughts?

[honeysuckle]

My ex's sister just called me and told me that she spent the weekend with him and that during dinner and a few drinks in he became sad talking of their Dad passing 5 years ago and told her he thinks about death everyday now. (while sitting with his new GF who makes him "soo happy" She is worried. I told her that didn't sound good. Does anyone know if this is depression or a cry for attention or help?

I cant help him anymore but maybe she could.

Any thoughts?

[ReluctantSurvivor]

I am not a proffesional but my T told me that suicidal idealization is common.  Thinking, "I could just drive my car into that pole" is no big deal.  It is an issue if someone physically attempts it.

[AG]

From my experience with my BPD ex the suicide thing is always a cry for attention but not something to be taken lightly being that mine has actually tried it before. Or should I say fake tried it(Swallowed a whole bottle of asprin with a bottle of wine). Even if they fake try it for attention they could end up making a mistake. When I rushed mine to the hospital they said she could have had liver failure from that episode and possibly died. She also tried to strangle herself during one hopsitalization and another time sent me a suicide note and had me worried sick. I have rushed over other times to her place to try to quote on quote save her and though it did work there were many other times when she pulled the same antics. Kinda hard to tell which ones are real and fake when they are usually blended in with real and fake.  None of us can help them we are not professionals. That is not something you can hug away or talk away. I would strongly suggest to recommend her sister to try to get your ex medical attention. There are also hotlines that he can call that are trained to talk you out of suicide and if they cannot help they will send police over to get him to the hospital where they can get him professional help. I'm sorry your going through this I went through the same exact thing constant worry. Proffesional help is the best way to go and yes it should be taken seriously theres no real way of telling the difference if it's attention seeking or real.