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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: dissolved close relationship w/ "soulmate" from the 7th circle of hades
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October 20, 2014, 11:30:09 PM »
The last few days have been somewhat revelatory.
My closest friend made a bad decision. The decision had absolutely no bearing on my life what so ever. It really only affects her (and it wasnt life treating or changing, just a bad idea).
My reaction was to get angry. And I said something I shouldn't have. No permanent damage but once I calmed i apologized profusely and was forgiven (because she is very accepting).
This reaction made no sense to me when I really thought about it. Im seeing now that I was triggered and reacted based on a similar FOO descision/action(s) which did affect me and I should be angry about. Ot have been angry about. You get the idea.
I can most certainly see that my rs with the ex was affected by this same reaction from me.
And that it has affected many interactions with people. And there are other things i do that are flawed in a similar way. Bad habits, bad reactions, etc.
Okay, I understand that being mindful of my emotions and motivations for them can help with this.
The question the thread title refers to is this:
How do i keep this mindset and not slowly go back to juat trudging along like i have been? Ive been doing things things in a set way for many many years. Im not afraid of change at all.
But i need the change to stick.
How do i remain mindful enough to stay mindful?
Serious question. If anyone has any tips/techniques/suggestions that work i would love to give them a try.
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