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« on: October 18, 2014, 02:22:10 AM »

I just cant seem to get her and my replacement being together out of my head !  This is the first time in weeks that I haven't had a few beers to help sleep.
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« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2014, 02:29:24 AM »

Hi Peiper,

I know exactly how u feel. So hard to feel that u have been replaced. Unfortunately this isn't about us at all. I miss my ex so much I feel like I've had a limb removed. It's so hard to detach from someone normally let alone a BPD. I find that bieng with others helps a lot. Try to be strong.  Sleeping will get easier. Try taking a herbal sleep remedy and remember... .only u can look after u!
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« Reply #2 on: October 18, 2014, 02:36:02 AM »

Thanks Giggler82. Seems like there are so many of us in the same boat on here. When I feel lots of pain I post what I'm feeling on here as a release' it actually works.
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« Reply #3 on: October 18, 2014, 06:32:13 AM »

I journal Peiper. Most of what I post comes from my journal unless its a specific question. It's funny I don't have to put much thought into the forum, I just cut and paste. It helps to share. I can't blame the replacement. He was spun a tale of despair just like I was. I don't like the constant flash I get of them together in my mind, but there's nothing I can do, but try and prepare myself for when I do actually see them(she coaches my sons VB team). It's only been about a month and a half for me b/u and 23 days n/c, so still a baby to all this after our year and a half together. Keep posting your thoughts. One of us has been through the same or worse and will be able to help.
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« Reply #4 on: October 18, 2014, 08:30:30 AM »

I just cant seem to get her and my replacement being together out of my head !  This is the first time in weeks that I haven't had a few beers to help sleep.

Don't call him "your replacement".

He is "the next victim".

Completely block all means of contact.

No more face book, texts, calls, messages, instagram, snap chat, whatever else is out there.

BLOCK her and her family and all her friends.

DO NOT go places where there is a chance of you 'accidently running' into her and the new victim.

Purge... .trust me. Purge... .it is good for your soul.
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« Reply #5 on: October 18, 2014, 08:39:22 AM »

I journal Peiper. Most of what I post comes from my journal unless its a specific question. It's funny I don't have to put much thought into the forum, I just cut and paste. It helps to share. I can't blame the replacement. He was spun a tale of despair just like I was. I don't like the constant flash I get of them together in my mind, but there's nothing I can do, but try and prepare myself for when I do actually see them(she coaches my sons VB team). It's only been about a month and a half for me b/u and 23 days n/c, so still a baby to all this after our year and a half together. Keep posting your thoughts. One of us has been through the same or worse and will be able to help.

I really feel your pain , me ex is in anther state , I was wishing she still close by , after reading your post I realized that am satisfied she is not close by .

Never the less  I sometimes picture in my head what if she is sharing intimacy with my replacement , and it tares me apart , it's been three months now , and am still hurting ,

But keep posting we are all in the same boat together hope it's not the titanic  I think we are on these rescue small boats we will soon see land  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #6 on: October 18, 2014, 08:49:43 AM »

I journal Peiper. Most of what I post comes from my journal unless its a specific question. It's funny I don't have to put much thought into the forum, I just cut and paste. It helps to share. I can't blame the replacement. He was spun a tale of despair just like I was. I don't like the constant flash I get of them together in my mind, but there's nothing I can do, but try and prepare myself for when I do actually see them(she coaches my sons VB team). It's only been about a month and a half for me b/u and 23 days n/c, so still a baby to all this after our year and a half together. Keep posting your thoughts. One of us has been through the same or worse and will be able to help.

I really feel your pain , me ex is in anther state , I was wishing she still close by , after reading your post I realized that am satisfied she is not close by .

Never the less  I sometimes picture in my head what if she is sharing intimacy with my replacement , and it tares me apart , it's been three months now , and am still hurting ,

But keep posting we are all in the same boat together hope it's not the titanic  I think we are on these rescue small boats we will soon see land  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

I hear ya. Mine lives 4 blocks from me. Yesterday my neighbors told me she has been walking her dog past my house. Of all places in this big subdivision, gotta go by my house? God, let this end!
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