xBPD suddenly seems more attractive, mirroring?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I've noticed something, the past couple of days my xBPD has suddenly become immensely more attractive to me. I can actually quantify it by looking at older photos from before things started going well and comparing them. I can go back one month, and then look at the new photos and I find her to look absolutely beautiful.

Whats going on? Is it humanly possible that she's doing something to make herself seem more attractive to me? Or is it a general thing? She's acting different with me as well, much more amiable, polite, even respectful. She even asked me how I was yesterday. She wants to talk, seems happier, isn't pushing me away anymore. Sure, it's not the obsessive stuff of the past. It's just plain nice.

Things are lifting up though, the number of texts is more. But I just can't get over how beautiful she looks.

Literally 10 days ago, she has a picture of her in a dress... .meh

today, a picture of her in her beauty outfit sitting on a chair smiling... .wowosh <3

I don't get it, its like what effort I put in I get out...

I really, really, really want a recycle! haha

[christoff522]

I've noticed something, the past couple of days my xBPD has suddenly become immensely more attractive to me. I can actually quantify it by looking at older photos from before things started going well and comparing them. I can go back one month, and then look at the new photos and I find her to look absolutely beautiful.

Whats going on? Is it humanly possible that she's doing something to make herself seem more attractive to me? Or is it a general thing? She's acting different with me as well, much more amiable, polite, even respectful. She even asked me how I was yesterday. She wants to talk, seems happier, isn't pushing me away anymore. Sure, it's not the obsessive stuff of the past. It's just plain nice.

Things are lifting up though, the number of texts is more. But I just can't get over how beautiful she looks.

Literally 10 days ago, she has a picture of her in a dress... .meh

today, a picture of her in her beauty outfit sitting on a chair smiling... .wowosh <3

I don't get it, its like what effort I put in I get out...

I really, really, really want a recycle! haha

[Mr Hollande]

Good luck and Godspeed to you!

[Algae]

Doesnt seem like its anything to do with BPD.

Just a good example of us wanting what we can't have/don't have.

[fred6]

I've noticed something, the past couple of days my xBPD has suddenly become immensely more attractive to me. I can actually quantify it by looking at older photos from before things started going well and comparing them. I can go back one month, and then look at the new photos and I find her to look absolutely beautiful.

Whats going on? Is it humanly possible that she's doing something to make herself seem more attractive to me? Or is it a general thing? She's acting different with me as well, much more amiable, polite, even respectful. She even asked me how I was yesterday. She wants to talk, seems happier, isn't pushing me away anymore. Sure, it's not the obsessive stuff of the past. It's just plain nice.

Things are lifting up though, the number of texts is more. But I just can't get over how beautiful she looks.

Literally 10 days ago, she has a picture of her in a dress... .meh

today, a picture of her in her beauty outfit sitting on a chair smiling... .wowosh <3

I don't get it, its like what effort I put in I get out...

I really, really, really want a recycle! haha

Snap out of it man.

[Flora73]

Christoff... .

I think its more todo with how you feel and very little to do with her.

She might be in a relaxed position with no "punitive parent" in operation... .

But you know this won't last, just open your mouth the BPD will take what ever you say personally or look at it for more meaning and then negatively direct it at them selves.

Just remember maths 2 + 2 = some ones trying to get me... .

It won't last and then you are back to square one... .

Sucks I know!

[Blimblam]

She is luring you and maybe not just you back in. There is probably another party hurting right now.

You are a part of her tribe of attachements. She got bored with one now she needs a new play thing.

[christoff522]

Thanks guys. Sometimes i guess we go crazy. I think you're all right. Its not focused on me, but she's simply happy right now and I can see that and i love that. Anyway, theres more to life than physical beauty.

I may love her, but i can't worship her. I need to continue to focus on moi.

[tim_tom]

I've noticed something, the past couple of days my xBPD has suddenly become immensely more attractive to me. I can actually quantify it by looking at older photos from before things started going well and comparing them. I can go back one month, and then look at the new photos and I find her to look absolutely beautiful.

Whats going on? Is it humanly possible that she's doing something to make herself seem more attractive to me? Or is it a general thing? She's acting different with me as well, much more amiable, polite, even respectful. She even asked me how I was yesterday. She wants to talk, seems happier, isn't pushing me away anymore. Sure, it's not the obsessive stuff of the past. It's just plain nice.

Things are lifting up though, the number of texts is more. But I just can't get over how beautiful she looks.

Literally 10 days ago, she has a picture of her in a dress... .meh

today, a picture of her in her beauty outfit sitting on a chair smiling... .wowosh <3

I don't get it, its like what effort I put in I get out...

I really, really, really want a recycle! haha

What's happening is she's giving you positive reinforcement for a change, and you are translating that into increased hope which is letting your guard down as you start to seriously consider having a chance for a recycle.

10 days ago or w/e, you had little hope so your shields were up and you were more focused on the negatives.

Snap out of it, and go NC. You are only torturing yourself man

[clydegriffith]

I saw the BPDx a few weeks ago for the firs time in a year a few weeks ago when picking up my daughter. She's put on a nice amount of weight and i couldnt be happier

If she was the violent psycho with me when she actually looked good, i can't imagine what the guy she's with now is going through with her getting fat .

[Bak86]

I saw the BPDx a few weeks ago for the firs time in a year a few weeks ago when picking up my daughter. She's put on a nice amount of weight and i couldnt be happier

If she was the violent psycho with me when she actually looked good, i can't imagine what the guy she's with now is going through with her getting fat .

They all seem to have weight problems. My ex is really skinny and actually gained weight during our r/s. Now it's over she lost a lot of weight and she looks like a skeleton

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

I dont likebreading the posts like these poking

at the way our ex looks and wishing ill will on them. our happiness

shouldnt depend on their pain.

we are no better than them if thats the case.

[clydegriffith]

I dont likebreading the posts like these poking

at the way our ex looks and wishing ill will on them. our happiness

shouldnt depend on their pain.

we are no better than them if thats the case.

I beg to differ. After the hell i was put through, seeing her only assett (her appearance) deteriorate is very enjoying and i do not feel the least bit guilty about it