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What just happened? Painted black.
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November 02, 2014, 08:35:32 PM »
I asked my ex to call me for closure and answers.
He called and proceeded to take most of the phone call to degrade me and our relationship. It seems I've been painted black. I give up.
He's convinced he tried in the relationship and I didn't... .when he was the one caught cheating.
I can't even wrap my head around it. Oh well. I don't need too any longer. We're both free.
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I had this, but in long and hateful emails.
When I asked for face to face, she retracted the horrible email comments, coquettishly, and with a smile of delight gave me graphic insight in to her latest sexual liaisons.
Deeply lacking in empathy, I wonder how much further mine was to psychotic than neurotic. Whatever, nice you have encountered such a personality disorder, you will never be the same.
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After mine split me black, for 7 weeks i called her everyday and texted her every moment of the day and all I got was being raged at, accused of ridiculous nonsense and the whole thing of trying to reason with her became so distorted untill i could not take it anymore and went in to NC and also immediately started my therapy. Now, today is exactly 8 months post b/u. Every 2 weeks or 3 maybe, I will text her "How are you?" I dont get anymore replies after the ones she told me to move on with it, 1 or 2 months ago.
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