ex is on fb calling me a psychopath

[bungenstein]

im better off. he doesnt even understand love... and i feel so sorry for him when it comes to that. bc i have given love and i have felt it. and its a beautiful light.

Is what you have now far better than any 'love' experienced with the BPD?

I'm worried I can't love anymore.

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

im better off. he doesnt even understand love... and i feel so sorry for him when it comes to that. bc i have given love and i have felt it. and its a beautiful light.

Is what you have now far better than any 'love' experienced with the BPD?

I'm worried I can't love anymore.

im not in love with the guy im seeing now we are having fun even dating other people... but its clear and obvious we have a preference for eachother. he cancelled another date last night just so he could hang out with me. )

but i know what love is. i truly loved my ex. i am fullybcapable of loving in a VERY big way. and its genuine. iv.also felt love from my daughter... my best friends. when ypu truly love someone you want whats best for them. youre more selfless in some ways. when it os requited its amazing. i feel like what BPDs supply is that honeymoon phase love. the love with a partner should transcend from that. It should feelbthe same as loving a family member or best friend. love with a BPD is unrequited and ingenuine on their part.

trust me you WILL love again. it is your BPDx who is incapable. they expereince a very shalloe form of it. how sad for them. its like vs light. they dwell mostly in the dark

[bungenstein]

im better off. he doesnt even understand love... and i feel so sorry for him when it comes to that. bc i have given love and i have felt it. and its a beautiful light.

Is what you have now far better than any 'love' experienced with the BPD?

I'm worried I can't love anymore.

im not in love with the guy im seeing now we are having fun even dating other people... but its clear and obvious we have a preference for eachother. he cancelled another date last night just so he could hang out with me. )

but i know what love is. i truly loved my ex. i am fullybcapable of loving in a VERY big way. and its genuine. iv.also felt love from my daughter... my best friends. when ypu truly love someone you want whats best for them. youre more selfless in some ways. when it os requited its amazing. i feel like what BPDs supply is that honeymoon phase love. the love with a partner should transcend from that. It should feelbthe same as loving a family member or best friend. love with a BPD is unrequited and ingenuine on their part.

trust me you WILL love again. it is your BPDx who is incapable. they expereince a very shalloe form of it. how sad for them. its like vs light. they dwell mostly in the dark.

I started dating someone too, about 6 months after the split, and this girl started getting really serious with me making sure I wasn't dating anyone else aswell, then because she was too strong too soon, I started to pull away, then she started using tactics to try and make me jealous, so I called it off completely because I have ZERO tolerance for this sort of behaviour now, and then after perusing me for another month, she starts seeing one of my oldest friends!

Why do I always attract girls like this? I hope I can love again, I just haven't met anyone worth loving.

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

im better off. he doesnt even understand love... and i feel so sorry for him when it comes to that. bc i have given love and i have felt it. and its a beautiful light.

Is what you have now far better than any 'love' experienced with the BPD?

I'm worried I can't love anymore.

im not in love with the guy im seeing now we are having fun even dating other people... but its clear and obvious we have a preference for eachother. he cancelled another date last night just so he could hang out with me. )

but i know what love is. i truly loved my ex. i am fullybcapable of loving in a VERY big way. and its genuine. iv.also felt love from my daughter... my best friends. when ypu truly love someone you want whats best for them. youre more selfless in some ways. when it os requited its amazing. i feel like what BPDs supply is that honeymoon phase love. the love with a partner should transcend from that. It should feelbthe same as loving a family member or best friend. love with a BPD is unrequited and ingenuine on their part.

trust me you WILL love again. it is your BPDx who is incapable. they expereince a very shalloe form of it. how sad for them. its like vs light. they dwell mostly in the dark.

I started dating someone too, about 6 months after the split, and this girl started getting really serious with me making sure I wasn't dating anyone else aswell, then because she was too strong too soon, I started to pull away, then she started using tactics to try and make me jealous, so I called it off completely because I have ZERO tolerance for this sort of behaviour now, and then after perusing me for another month, she starts seeing one of my oldest friends!

Why do I always attract girls like this? I hope I can love again, I just haven't met anyone worth loving.

  i get what youre really saying i think is can you trust again? do normal ppl exist bc it doesnt feel like it after these relationships... .but i believe their are decent people out there. we just have to believe we deserve that and i think thats when they start coming.

[bungenstein]

  i get what youre really saying i think is can you trust again? do normal ppl exist bc it doesnt feel like it after these relationships... .but i believe their are decent people out there. we just have to believe we deserve that and i think thats when they start coming.

I can trust again, I just always end up with these crazy girls who are very insecure, very pushy for commitment, very neurotic, its just my BPDex was the Lord of them all. Is it something about me that makes them this way? I don't know.

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

  i get what youre really saying i think is can you trust again? do normal ppl exist bc it doesnt feel like it after these relationships... .but i believe their are decent people out there. we just have to believe we deserve that and i think thats when they start coming.

I can trust again, I just always end up with these crazy girls who are very insecure, very pushy for commitment, very neurotic, its just my BPDex was the Lord of them all. Is it something about me that makes them this way? I don't know.

i feel your pain! i dont even like telling peopke this bc its a reflection on me... .yes there are issues within us that need to be resolved or we ll keep attracting them!

my first everythibg ever is a sociopath... had no clue about that stuff i was 18. we had a child... i STILL have to de with him. not as bad as it used to be but he has put me through hell!

#2 was a female borderline chick to the max butbtotally in denial and unaware... ilshe gaslit me so much i went to therapy thinking that it was ME whobwas borderline... i learned differently.

3rd and last ex hes male borderline yet self aware... knows he has it... but still stuck in it. there was no excuse this time as i knew he was mentally ill.

this time my head is in a totally different place. i know im co dependent and iv been thinking my past and bc im not successful financially that i didnt deserve a good relationship. but that is just simply not true i have plenty good traits... and i have the ability to improve.

iv always won people with my looks. My parents raised me to only have self worth on that. i dont feelbtuat way anymore my new partners dont have to put me on a pedestal about my looks (both BPDs idealized my looks and fed into my disorder)

its ok if the next person doesnt do that. i just want them to be good to me and like me as a person and vice versa.

[bungenstein]

 i get what youre really saying i think is can you trust again? do normal ppl exist bc it doesnt feel like it after these relationships... .but i believe their are decent people out there. we just have to believe we deserve that and i think thats when they start coming.

I can trust again, I just always end up with these crazy girls who are very insecure, very pushy for commitment, very neurotic, its just my BPDex was the Lord of them all. Is it something about me that makes them this way? I don't know.

i feel your pain! i dont even like telling peopke this bc its a reflection on me... .yes there are issues within us that need to be resolved or we ll keep attracting them!

my first everythibg ever is a sociopath... had no clue about that stuff i was 18. we had a child... i STILL have to de with him. not as bad as it used to be but he has put me through hell!

#2 was a female borderline chick to the max butbtotally in denial and unaware... ilshe gaslit me so much i went to therapy thinking that it was ME whobwas borderline... i learned differently.

3rd and last ex hes male borderline yet self aware... knows he has it... but still stuck in it. there was no excuse this time as i knew he was mentally ill.

this time my head is in a totally different place. i know im co dependent and iv been thinking my past and bc im not successful financially that i didnt deserve a good relationship. but that is just simply not true i have plenty good traits... and i have the ability to improve.

iv always won people with my looks. My parents raised me to only have self worth on that. i dont feelbtuat way anymore my new partners dont have to put me on a pedestal about my looks (both BPDs idealized my looks and fed into my disorder)

its ok if the next person doesnt do that. i just want them to be good to me and like me as a person and vice versa.

I think we are very similar in that regard, although sometimes I don't feel it, I've been told throughout my whole life that I'm very good looking, but I have also been quite shy, maybe its this mix that attracts these kind of girls. I rarely do the approaching, which I know is bad as a man should do it, all the girls I've been with have approached me. My BPD was obsessed with my face, I'm pretty sure it was literally the only reason she wanted to be with me, its all she talked about, I don't think she ever knew who I was, I was just a pretty face in her eyes and that was it, a complete object, I may aswell have been a stuffed animal. I'm thinking that if I want to meet a girl who has her stuff together, I'll need to initiate it.

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

That is precisely why my last two exes got with me (the socio didnt care about my looks or really anyones... for that matter)

the female ex thought i was the most gorgeous thing... i was nothing but an object.

the second one (male) tore down my looks and built them back up simultaneously.

he always wanted to have sex. im not kidding... 17 times once in one day. he was all over me all the time. i believed he loved my personality even tho he has devalued it now. but def with my first BPD... she didnt care much for me past my looks. allbthough she would never admit that.

i never truly felt atteactive but i have a weird history with that... im half black and half white and it was a secret i was black. so i got very mixed messages which made me have deep complexes about my looks.

BPDs realize this and feed into it. they are attracted ti me physically,no doubt, but they exploit the whole thing to hook me.

recently iv just started accepting my beauty flaws and all. its hard but its gotta be done if i want a successful relationship. i need to get self worth from myself. if anyone else loves it that should just be icing on the cake.

i dont want to be full of myself i just want to not have two extremes about my looks.

i believe this is one of the MAJOR things that attracts me to these types

[bungenstein]

That is precisely why my last two exes got with me (the socio didnt care about my looks or really anyones... for that matter)

the female ex thought i was the most gorgeous thing... i was nothing but an object.

the second one (male) tore down my looks and built them back up simultaneously.

he always wanted to have sex. im not kidding... 17 times once in one day. he was all over me all the time. i believed he loved my personality even tho he has devalued it now. but def with my first BPD... she didnt care much for me past my looks. allbthough she would never admit that.

i never truly felt atteactive but i have a weird history with that... im half black and half white and it was a secret i was black. so i got very mixed messages which made me have deep complexes about my looks.

BPDs realize this and feed into it. they are attracted ti me physically,no doubt, but they exploit the whole thing to hook me.

recently iv just started accepting my beauty flaws and all. its hard but its gotta be done if i want a successful relationship. i need to get self worth from myself. if anyone else loves it that should just be icing on the cake.

i dont want to be full of myself i just want to not have two extremes about my looks.

i believe this is one of the MAJOR things that attracts me to these types

Maybe a healthy person would think, well they are good looking but they'll obviously need more than just looks to have a great relationship, whereas dysfunctional people just see looks and become infatuated with them, with little care for anything else, and that's why people like you and I end up with these nutters, because we have issues that have stopped us from seeking out healthy people ourselves.

What do you mean by they exploit the whole thing to hook you?

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

That is precisely why my last two exes got with me (the socio didnt care about my looks or really anyones... for that matter)

the female ex thought i was the most gorgeous thing... i was nothing but an object.

the second one (male) tore down my looks and built them back up simultaneously.

he always wanted to have sex. im not kidding... 17 times once in one day. he was all over me all the time. i believed he loved my personality even tho he has devalued it now. but def with my first BPD... she didnt care much for me past my looks. allbthough she would never admit that.

i never truly felt atteactive but i have a weird history with that... im half black and half white and it was a secret i was black. so i got very mixed messages which made me have deep complexes about my looks.

BPDs realize this and feed into it. they are attracted ti me physically,no doubt, but they exploit the whole thing to hook me.

recently iv just started accepting my beauty flaws and all. its hard but its gotta be done if i want a successful relationship. i need to get self worth from myself. if anyone else loves it that should just be icing on the cake.

i dont want to be full of myself i just want to not have two extremes about my looks.

i believe this is one of the MAJOR things that attracts me to these types

Maybe a healthy person would think, well they are good looking but they'll obviously need more than just looks to have a great relationship, whereas dysfunctional people just see looks and become infatuated with them, with little care for anything else, and that's why people like you and I end up with these nutters, because we have issues that have stopped us from seeking out healthy people ourselves.

What do you mean by they exploit the whole thing to hook you?

exactly! my ex was infatuated with a girl in highschool beautiful girl out of his league... .he made sure to fail senior year just to graduate with her! then stayed infatuated even after high school! barely even knew eachother... ! he claimed they were friends but his mother told me that simply wasnt the case. he still stalks her profile and gets off to her pics. pathetic shallow and creepy.

they exploit it bc they can sense its a thing for me... then they hear my story and realize its a gold mine to keep me hooked. my first BPD ex wasnt half as good as my last one. my first one just put my looks on a pedestal and that was that. even when we were fighting.

my second one made me feel inferior about my looks (because im not typical i have really curly long hair and olive skin) then be all over me telling me how beautiful i was at the same time. it was genius quite frankly kept me insecure enough to try and win his affection and feeling too insecure to leave... while also making me feel very sexy and beautiful at times. he would eye me everywhere i went... yet at the same time tell me his preference was white women who are superior on looks. twisted.

i was twisted too all these years replaying childhood stuff over and over